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Worksheet: Clarify Which of
Your
Co-parents are Responsible For What
A resource for negotiating
effective
family "job descriptions" -
p. 3 of 4 by Peter K.
Gerlach, MSW
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 The Web address of this page is
http://sfhelp.org/10/co-pinv3.htm
This is the third of four Web pages comprising this
co-parenting responsibilities inventory.
If you're unclear, review the
worksheet's purpose, and suggested directions. Items
in italics below are co-parenting responsibilities commonly unique to multi-home
stepfamilies, vs. typical biofamilies. Permit yourself to take your time filling
this checklist out thoughtfully and honestly! Recall why you're doing this, and
for whom ... BP = "bioparent", and SP =
"stepparent."
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Co-parenting Goals / Activities |
Who should be responsible for
making this goal with (child's name) _________________________? |
Names /
Initials |
BP1 |
SP1 |
BP2 |
SP2 |
Child |
Other |
Health and Growth (continued) |
| Provide timely, effective
sex education, guidance,
limits, and protections |
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| Choose this child's
health providers |
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| Arrange behavioral counseling / medical
/ dental
/ optical / appointments |
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| Provide transport |
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| Monitor / evaluate
/ follow up on these
visits |
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| Get / give / monitor any
medications |
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| Pay for this child's health-related
expenses |
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| Provide and monitor health
insurance/s |
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| Resolve major problems on any of these |
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| Family and Other Relationships |
| Help this child clearly
define "
now?" |
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| Help clarify this child's
role responsibilities
as a stepchild / stepsibling / step-grandchild |
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| Teach this child key
stepfamily- biofamily
differences and
norms |
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| Decide / act on stepparental
adoption
of this
child |
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Family titles: decide what this child will
call each
stepfamily member |
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| Resolve conflicts between
stepsibs and/or
step-relatives |
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| Resolve this child's
bioparent/s' feeling
too much" |
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| Resolve this child's stepparent/s' feeling
"second best" too often |
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| Promote mutual
respect with
stepsibs and half-sibs
(if any) |
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Our Co-parenting Goals
/ Activities |
Who should be responsible for
making this goal with (child's name) _________________________? |
Names / initials |
BP1 |
SP1 |
BP2 |
SP2 |
Child |
Other |
Family and Other Relationships (continued) |
| Facilitate a
healthy relationship between this child
and their non-custodial bioparent |
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| Facilitate healthy relationships between this child and
their bio-kin |
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| Facilitate healthy relationships between this child
and their step-kin |
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| Inform this child's teacher/s, doctor/s, and
minister "we are a multi-home stepfamily" |
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| Promptly resolve major disputes among this
child's
co-parents |
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| Arrange / Provide transportation to /
from friends' homes, and social events |
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| _ Choose, _ buy, and
_ pay for this child's party
supplies and presents |
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| _ Plan and _ oversee
sleepovers and parties |
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| _ Set and _ enforce this child's
telephone
limits |
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| _ Make and _ enforce their "check in"
rules |
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Our
Co-parenting Goals / activities |
Who should be responsible for making this goal with (child's name)
_________________________? |
Names /
initials |
BP1 |
SP1 |
BP2 |
SP2 |
Child |
Other |
Family
and Other Relationships (continued) |
| _ Set and _ enforce their
curfew limits |
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| _ Arrange, _ transport,
and _ pay for their baby
sitters, and _ resolve problems with them |
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| _ Choose, _ buy, and
_ care for this child's pets |
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| Resolve major conflicts on any of these |
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Money / Work |
| _ Teach and _ model good money management |
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| _ Define, _ assign, and
_ monitor household chores |
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| _ Set and _ monitor this child's
allowance rules |
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| Give them appropriate allowance
money |
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| Help this child _ get and
_ keep an appropriate job |
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| Help this child learn to _
buy
and _ save
wisely |
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| Teach this child how to use a _
checking and
_ savings account |
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| Determine appropriate financial support
amounts for this child |
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| Decide how this child's support money should be
used |
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| Provide an inheritance for
this child via an
estate plan and legal will |
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_ Teach this child basic
investment principles, and _ coach their attempts
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| Resolve major family disputes on any of
these |
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