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Premise - most
U.S. (and other?) families inherit major stress from the
unseen [wounds + unaware-ness]
My experience is that average
men and women - including media and human-service profes-sionals -
are unaware of this cycle and its toxic effects.
This final self-study Lesson is for people who...
the benefits of using the ideas in this
to improve their lives;
are reasonably clear on their life's
are strongly motivated to (a) alert other
people to these ideas and benefits, and to (b) stop the [wounds +
unawareness] cycle from eroding their society, and specially for...
If you don't meet these
conditions, this Lesson will be of little use to you. Either way,
get quiet, breathe easily, and
1-minute video about your life.
This Lesson provides a framework you can adopt to fit your own
personality and circumstances. Notice which parts of it - if any - energize
you! Options - (a) print this guide and use it to track your pro-gress with
these "assignments;" (b) review and discuss this Lesson periodically, e.g.
on your birthday or January 1.
Lesson 8 Self-study Guide
Decide whether your true Self
now in most situations. If not, are you committed to
your Self to lead your other subselves? If not, focus on
Lesson 1 rather than
__ 8-2) See what
you've learned by studying this course -
take each of these these
again. Appreciate how the main topics interact with each
Describe the [wounds + unawareness]
cycle out loud to at least three
people, and answer any any questions. Notice how you feel about their reactions.
Summarize (a) the specific efforts you've made to break this cycle in your own
life and family, and (b) what's resulted, to at least one
__ 8-5) Refresh your understanding of how to
(a) spot significantly-wounded adults and kids, and how to
relate effectively to
Review your understanding of the six
psychological wounds caused by the cycle, and describe
them to at least three
average adults. Notice their reactions, and answer any questions
Option - refer them to
__ 8-7) Review this ageless
about personal responsibilities;
Review this article about avoiding Persecutor - Victim - Rescuer
(PVR) relationship triangles.
Stay clear: you are not responsible for
people from the cycle (except dependent kids).
on helping others to break
the cycle. If you're a professional human-service
provider (e.g. an
educator, medical or legal pro, counselor, etc.) also study
options make sense to you, then...
With your Self
you, decide how motivated you are about
alerting others to the cycle and its
motivated __ moderately motivated __ very
8-11) If you're not motivated now, reconsider this
Lesson as you mature (e.g. on birthdays) - you may may develop an interest in alerting others in the future.
__ 8-12) Choose which
Lessons you want to tell
others about (1 through 7)
__ 8-13) Pick a target group to
alert - local,
regional, occupational, or national
__ 8-14) Review
the ways you can alert others - e.g. flyers, articles, seminars, speeches,
Review this article on responding to
normal "resistance" to the [wounds + unawareness] cycle,
and add your own ideas.
__ 8-16) Seek others who share your wish to
inform, and collaborate.
__ 8-17) If
you have other passions, meditate on how you can use your enthusiasm
to alert others with the same passion to the cycle and
these protective Lessons.
__ 8-18) Watch for people who will join you in alerting others to the cycle
and how to break it.
Enjoy the satisfaction of knowing your
life-mission is vital!
This final Lesson study guide offers specific suggestions on how to alert other people
to the [wounds + unawareness] cycle and how to break it. The
suggestions depend on your having made significant pro-gress on the
seven prior lessons - including breaking the cycle in your own family.
This lesson, like the others, is an ongoing process. Well
understood, adapted, and applied, they will become a way of life.
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