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This article assumes you have invested tome in self-study
. It extends these
three pages on ways to break the [wounds + unawareness]
Please read them now if you haven't recently.
The article is written to you if you're in one of these professions:
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clergy
and church leaders
consulting
- all subjects
education -
all levels
executives
and managers
human
resources
legal services
medical services |
professional mediators - all levels
law enforcement
coaching and mental-health
services
personal
growth, motivation, and training
public media
social
policy and law makers
social work
and community
organization |
This article propose that
you have an opportunity and a moral
obligation to inform your coworkers and the people you serve about how to
prevent the toxic effects of the [wounds + unawareness] cycle in their
lives and our society. Notice your reaction to this idea...
This
article provides...
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premises about human-service professionals and
the [wounds + unawareness] cycle;
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perspective: is stress prevention your ethical
responsibility?
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status check: key factors that affect your
professional effectiveness, and...
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ways you can help break the cycle with
co-workers and those you serve.
Premises
See how you feel about these
ideas. A = "I agree,"
D = "I disagree, and ? = "I'm not
sure," or "It depends" (on what?) Notice how you feel
as you consider each of these...
1) Our society currently doesn't teach the public
enough about
these
key topics: (A D ?)
| normal personalities
communication |
healthy relationships
losses and healthy grief |
healthy families
effective parenting |
|
the lethal [wounds +
unawareness] cycle |
2) No
matter what a person's presenting (surface) problems are, their underlying primary
problems are some mix of
unseen false-self
+
+
of
these topics.
(A D ?)
| 3)
Many
human-service
professionals (like you?) are significantly
wounded, unaware, and
They don't (want to) know this, and deny or minimize it.
Many unconsciously choose work
in low-nurturance organizations, and their protective
will
deny, minimize, or justify this
and resist changing it. (A D ?) |
4)
Many people who train, certify, license, hire, supervise, fund, and
evaluate human-service profes-sionals and programs are
of low-nurturance childhoods in protective denial.
Most are unaware of this, what it
and
how to
. (A D ?)
5)
Most human-service
professionals, programs, and organizations focus on reducing personal and social problems, rather than
preventing
them. This is partly true because public motivation and demand for prevention is lower. (A D ?)
6) Your professional skills and energy are better spent preventing
stress than reducing it. (A D ?)
Who
just responded to these premises - your
or
Is Stress Prevention Your Responsibility?
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Do you accept that the [wounds +
unawareness] cycle is real, toxic, and widespread? If so, do you feel morally
responsible to alert other people to it and how to avoid or break it? This is no different than if you were among the first people to be aware of AIDS,
West Nile virus, or
the risk of cancer from nicotine and exposure to ultra-violet rays. If you don't
alert people - who will? |
If you're not motivated to prevent part
or all of the [wounds + ignorance] cycle with
some group of people now, why not acknowledge that and stop reading?
This
mission is not for everyone...
Priority
check: get undistracted,
breathe well, and rate your current professional priorities honestly:
on a scale of one (my main
professional satisfaction comes from helping people reduce current stress)
to five (my main satisfaction comes from
preventing people from
being stressed, rate myself as a ___. Would
you rather put out forest fires or prevent them? Is your
true Self (capital "S") answering this?
If you are interested in stress prevention, your effectiveness
will depend partly on some key factors. See how you stand with them
now...
Status Check
Raise
your self-awareness by assessing yourself. T = "true" or "I agree;"
F = "false" or "I disagree;" and ? = "I'm not sure, don't know,
or don't care."
I'm
sure my
true Self
is
my personality now. (T F ?) If you're not sure, your respon-ses below may be distorted.
I can clearly describe the concepts of (a) a multi-part
personality and
(b) a
true Self and false self to an average teen. (T F ?)
I can name at least five
that indicate a true Self
is guiding an adult or child now.
(T F ?)
I can name (a) the six
that many people don't know they have, and
(b) at least four
of these wounds. (T
F ?)
I
have
assessed myself for these wounds honestly,
and have evaluated my own need for personal
recovery from them. (T F ?) If not, empathizing with wounded coworkers and
clients will be harder.
I have honestly evaluated the
nurturance level of my childhood and current
families and
my workplace, and I can clearly describe what
the levels mean in my life. (T F ?)
I can name
seven vital subjects that most Americans are unaware of now, and I have
thoughtfully
myself on each of them. (T F
?)
I have honestly
evaluated whether these wounds and
unawarenesses have significantly af-fected (a) me and (b)
my
family now. (T F ?)
I understand how false-self wounds and unawarenesses
the generations and
are spreading in our culture. (T F ?)
I
agree that false-self wounds and unawareness cause many serious personal,
family, and social problems for average people like those I work with and serve
professionally. (T F ?)
On a scale of 1 (no interest) to 5 (high
interest), my motivation to reduce the wounds and unawareness in
our family now is a ___.
On a scale of 1 (no interest) to 5 (very
interested), my motivation to help the
people I serve professionally
and/or my co-workers, to
understand this [wounds + unawareness] cycle and its effects is a ___.
The
first place to become effective at preventing personal,
family, and social stress is with myself. (T F
?)
Note your
thoughts and emotions now - your "self talk." It's caused by your busy subselves reacting to what you just
experienced. What did you just learn about yourself and your profession?
Options
You
can help to
break this [wounds + ignorance] cycle,
whatever your human-service role or back-ground! Your profession,
training, and experience give you more much authority and credibility
than aver-age lay people in informing and motivating clients, students,
and patients. Consider broad
possibilities like these...
Decide who usually
your personality - your Self (capital "S") or "someone else."
If it's not your Self (capital "S"), make reducing your false-self
wounds your second-highest life pri-ority behind protecting your
integrity and wholistic health.
Read these brief
research summaries. They hilight the
widespread effects of low-nurturance parenting caused by inner
wounds and unawarenesses, tho the authors aren't aware of them.
Heal
and educate yourself, and help
your family do the same. The
more you experience the
benefits of wound-recovery and learning
the core topics, the more prevention-minded you're apt to become!
Read any of these
guidebooks that
fit your current personal and professional situation. If you see value
in them, tell relevant other people about them. Scan or study these
related books as additional
resources. No other authors explore false-self wounds or the core topics here - and their
books often still have value.
Alert
your co-workers, administrators, and Board members to this [wounds + unawareness + ignorance] cycle and its
and
effects.
Options:
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informal discussion and referral to
this course overview;
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present an
in-service training seminar or series, and/or a conference seminar on
the cycle or one or more of its component topics (next page);
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submit an article or series to your
organization's newsletter or bulletin,
-
make a
presentation or program proposal to your organizational leaders
and policy makers toward raising their awareness of how the
cycle affects your professional
mission, programs, and staff;
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do an research study to
validate one or more of the premises here; and/or...
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clarify and act on your own
long-term vision.
If you belong to local and/or national
professional societies, alert the people responsible for professional standards,
training, and licensing to the wounds + unawareness cycle, and
urge them to validate these premises and incorporate them in the
association's
policies and goals.
Alert professionals and organizations that
you network with and...
Ask
your co-workers to help to
alert the people you serve directly (personal contact) and indi-rectly, through
community and media education.
Pause and reflect - what are you feeling and thinking about these
stress-prevention options?
There are many ways you can help break the [wounds + unawareness]
cycle. Pick a target group and topic/s that suit you...
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Target
groups
-
your extended-family
members
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the people you serve
profes-sionally,
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your co-workers,
executives, and policy makers
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members and
policy-makers of any professional associations you belong to
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local or national
colleagues in other human-service profes-sions
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state or national
legislators
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institutions which
train, certify, and/or regulate human service
professionals
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some or all
12-step,
single-parent, teens, elderly, jail in-mates, or members of
special group/s, and/or...
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needy, unaware courting couples in
your area
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all children, teens,
or adults in your town, county, state,
country, or continent; and/or...
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a media population (e.g. news-paper,
Web, or TV
audience);
and/or...
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people who speak
your lan-guage (e.g. English)
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citizens of developing
and/or low-nurturance nations
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migrants, minorities,
and/or disabled people
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one or more of these topics
and their impacts:
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This table is suggestive, not definitive. Pause, breathe, and notice calmly
where your thoughts go now. Anything like...
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"Ah, too much work."
"They'll think I'm nuts."
"I'm too busy."
"I'm a terrible salesperson."
"I can't speak in public."
"I don't know how to present."
"I'm not getting paid to do this."
"People don't change." |
"People will ignore me."
"My boss (or __________ ) won't go for it."
"I can't make a difference."
"People don't read brochures or newsletters."
"Let's do this later, after..."
"Who am I (to try to make a difference.)"
"Nah, too risky; too many unknowns."
"Someone else
will probably do this." |
Thoughts like these are made by normal
like your
Cynic / Skeptic / Critic / Perfec-tionist / Worrier / and/or
Saboteur. They probably don't trust
your
(capital "S"), who might say something like...
"I see value
in working to prevent and reduce major social problems. I
can do some of these
options over time along with my regular work. I think I'll do more research
on
false-self wounds and/or
one or more of the key topics in Lesson 1 thru 7.
Then I'll decide whether I want to try one or more of these options. I
think I'll kick this around with (a trusted, like-minded colleague) and
see what s/he thinks..."
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The theme of all the prevention options
above is educating people on the [wounds + unaware-ness]
cycle and how it impacts persons,
families, organizations, and our society. If
you want to edu-cate others, consider copying or building on any of the
materials in this nonprofit site to do so, rather than reinventing the wheel. Your
own unique way of expression will cause the best impact |
Recap
This article for lay
and professional adults focuses on preventing epidemic
American family
stress and divorce. It proposes that average families and other
human groups are significantly stressed by
the adults'...
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psychological wounds from a low-nurturance childhood,
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unawareness of key internal dynamics,
and...
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ignorance (lack of knowledge) of up to seven key topics.
The article invites you to study these topics and apply them to
your family to gain experiential know-ledge. Then
decide if you want to alert a target group of people to this
pervasive [wounds + ignorance] cycle and its toxic effects.
+ + +
Next - click your professional link below for more perspective.
Each profession has unique opportu-nities for
stress prevention at all
levels.
Note:
these articles are under construction - check back to see them evolve
Reflect: why did you read this article? Did you get what you needed? If not
- what
you need now? Who's
these questions - your wise, resident
or
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