__ 1) I have
frequent periods of
or if not, I'm usually aware of why.
__ 2) I'm usually
clearly
of my
_ current
(secondary) needs and my _
"beneath" them.
__ 3) I'm _ clearly
aware of my life purpose or mission, or I'm _ actively
working to identify and pursue it within my limits.
__ 4) I can
_ name the subselves that comprise my
and
_ I can say what each
main
talent or "job" is.
__ 5) I _ can describe the difference between a
to an average teenager, and I _ usually know
my Self (capital "S") is making my key life
decisions.
__ 6) I _ can
usually sense when a child or adult is
(controlled by their
and _ I'm
often
aware of my
subselves'
reactions when that's true.
__ 7) I can
name _
often
caused by
childhoods, _ the
typical
of these wounds,
and I know _ where to
find the
common behavioral symptoms of each of these wounds in this Web site.
__ 8) I can clearly
describe to another person
_ the difference between first-order and
second-order human
_ how this difference relates
to false-self control of my (or
another's)
and...
_ why this knowledge is vital to me and my loved ones in making
major life decisions like marriage and child conception and/or adoption.
__ 9) I can _ name
the three levels of
_ the key
phases of each level, and _ I can
describe when grieving is "done."
__ 10) I
understand _
for healthy grieving, and
_ how grief
can get slowed or
in a
child or adult.
__ 11) I know
_ at
least five of the
of blocked grief, and
_ how to support a mourner
effectively.
__ 12) I
know
_ the difference between active grieving and
and _ how to react to each of
these
in _ myself and _ other
people I care about.
__ 13) I can clearly describe
what...
_ my
childhood-family's
was, and _ how
it has affected my ability to mourn well; and what...
_ my current family's grief policy is, and _ whether it
promotes healthy or blocked grief.
__ 14) I can explain _ the
difference between
to an
average teenager,
_
where each comes from, and how to _ avoid and _
heal each of them over time.
__ 15) I know
_ why normal (vs. excessive) anxiety is helpful, and _ how to reduce my
excessive anxieties
and
to
"normal."
__ 16) I
clearly know
_ the
difference between
and
religion, and _ how
that difference relates to my
__ 17) I...
_
can name at least 20 of my basic rights as a
valuable, dignified human being, and I...
_ consistently live by these
rights, and I...
_
and _ encourage all other
people in my life to honor their
identical rights, regardless of age, gender, culture, race, or role.
And...
__ 18) I can name
the four types of
at least three
of a true addiction, and _ three reasons
addictions exist in all eras and
cultures.
Pause, breathe, and reflect... what did you just learn about yourself?
Now switch gears and become aware of your...
Knowledge of Satisfying (High nurturance)
Relationships...
__ 19)
I can name _ the four groups of factors needed for a
healthy
(high nurturance) relationship
between any two people, and _ many of the key
ingredients in each group.
__ 20)
I can
clearly describe at least six of the key differences
between a nurturing relationship and a toxic
relationship.
__ 21) I
can now describe _ how the
of two people in
a relationship interact, and I know
_ how to
that
interaction
with my relationship partners.
The Web
address of this quiz is http://sfhelp.org/basics/quiz_persons.htm