Lesson 2 of 8 - grow effective thinking and communication skills

Response Options to Personal Rejection

Preserve your integrity and self-respect

By Peter K. Gerlach, MSW
Member NSRC Experts Council

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        This is one of a series of brief articles on how to respond effectively to annoying social behavior.  Review these basic requisites and options before selecting ideas from what follows. An "effective re-sponse" occurs when the responder (a) gets their primary needs met well enough, and (b) both people feel respected enough.

        This article offers (a) perspective on social rejections, and (b) sample responses to it. The article assumes you're familiar with...

  • the intro to this nonprofit Web site and the premises underlying it

  • self-study Lessons 1 and 2

  • basic options for all responses

  • how to give effective feedback to someone

  • ways to improve communication with adults and kids.

  • overviews of effective assertion and empathic listening skills.

Perspective

 

Recap

        This is one of a series of brief articles suggesting effective ways to respond to common social be-haviors. This article offers (a) perspective on social rejection, and (b) effective ways of responding to it. The ways are based on...

  • keeping your true Self ;

  • maintaining a mutual-respect attitude;

  • clarity on your feelings, needs, and mutual Rights; and...

  • fluency in the relationship skills of awareness, assertion, and empathic listening.

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        Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this article? Did you get what you needed? If not, what do you need? Who's answering these questions - your true Self, or someone else?

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