R(espect) Attitudes and Messages
All adults and kids need to feel respected enough by themselves and other people. So our ruling personality sub-selves constantly decode others' behaviors for implied signs of disrespect. We perceive (accurately or not) that another per-son's attitude about us is...
"I'm 1-up (superior) - my needs matter most to me now."
"I'm 1-down (inferior) - your needs matter most to me now."
= "I feel we're equals in dignity and worth now. I respect your needs and my needs equally now."