Seven vital Self-improvement Lessons

Is the lethal
[wounds + unawareness]
cycle s
tressing your family?

By Peter K. Gerlach, MSW
Member NSRC Experts Council

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The Web address of this outline is http://sfhelp.org/cycle.htm

  Updated  01-02-2015 

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      This brief YouTube video summarizes the cycle of inherited psychological wounds and unawareness outlined below. The video notes 8 lessons in this self-inprovement Web site - I've simplified that to seven.

      This ad-free Web site exists to alert people like you to psychological [wounds + unawareness] that silently pass down the generations and stress most people, families, and societies. I propose this unseen inheritance after 36 years as a family-systems therapist. During that time, I have never seen a version of this cycle, nor any research that confirms it. I have found many research studies that confirm parts of this toxic cycle.

       If people - specially parents and grandparents - don't understand and stop the unintended bequest of wounds and ignorance, it will implacably erode global societies and our environment. This bequest CAN be stopped, starting with public education.

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THE LETHAL [ WOUNDS + UNAWARENESS ] CYCLE


Five primary problems...

1)  public unawareness and denial of inherited [psychological wounds + unawareness] and their effects (below); and...

2)  public tolerance for unqualified child-conceptions and inadequate parenting (which wounds young kids), resulting in...

3)  no public or professional education on epidemic early-childhood neglect, abandonment, and abuse (trauma) and its toxic effects (red box below), and therefore...

4)  no effective federal or state legislation to motivate parents toward responsible child conception and effective nurturing, and...

5)  no demand for public media attention to these four problems.

 ...cause these epidemic secondary problems

 

6 PSYCHOLOGICAL WOUNDS

personality fragmenting

excessive shame and guilts

excessive fears

excessive reality distortions

overtrusting or undertrusting

difficulty feeling, empathizing, and bonding

+  PUBLIC IGNORANCE OF...

psychological wounds

effective communication

healthy grieving

healthy relationships

high-nurturance families

effective parenting, and...

the effects of inherited wounds and ignorance (below)

+  PERSONAL UNAWARENESS OF...

my inner process

my primary needs

your primary needs

our social dynamics

our environment, and...

healthy spirituality

...which combine to cause surface problems...

personal problems

addictions

aggression

depression

impulsivity

delusions

egotism

fears

eating disorders

intolerance

isolation / loneliness

manipulation

"mental illnesses"

mood disorders

shyness

self neglect

obsessions

toxic compulsions

paranoias

low self esteem

suicide

poverty

some physical illness

premature death

 family problems

abandonments

abuse

abortions

arguing and fighting

marital affairs

child neglect

desertions

dishonesty

distrust

disrespect

domestic violence

legal divorce

psychological divorce

values conflicts

relationship triangles

loyalty conflicts

financial conflicts

unwise marriages

unwise child conceptions

toxic parenting

parental alienation

legal battles

ex-mate conflicts

societal problems

bankruptcies

bigotry / prejudice

bulging jails

political corruption

crime (all forms)

dysfunctional families

public cynicism

mounting deficits

drug trafficking

school dropouts

ecological damage

gangs

homelessness

public scams

excessive litigation

murder

terrorism

overconsumption

fear of change

resource depletion

public ignorance

urban decay

the welfare industry

These promote the primary problems above

so inherited [psychological wounds + ignorance]
silently spread down our generations
 


 Please register your level of concern about this cycle
with this 1-question anonymous

poll.

      This unseen bequest of psychological wounds and ignorance can be stopped, once people are aware of it and its effects.

  Solutions

      The diagram above outlines a complex long-term social process that average people don't see. So they will continue to try solving surface problems (red box above) without affecting the primary problems causing them.

      Options for breaking this cycle include enforceable federal and state laws requiring that...

  • funding be provided to test and verify or disprove this proposed toxic cycle;

  • all high school, college, and military text books and curricula must explain the cycle objectively, and school and teaching certification must require demonstrated staff knowledge of it,

  • human-service licensing must include testing for comprehension of the cycle and its main impacts on people and families;

  • immigrants must demonstrate comprehension of the cycle and its effects before citizenship is granted;

  • marriage licensing should include mandatory education on the cycle, and screening for psychological wounds

  • public and private health clinics should include programs to help people understand, assess for, and reduce psychological wounds - specially if they're parents

  • jail inmates should receive mandatory education on the cycle and its effects, and optional counseling toward reducing their psychological wounds;

  • doctors and clergy should inform pregnant couples of this toxic cycle and what it can mean to them and any descendents;

  • the media should be encouraged or required to weave knowledge of this cycle into their programming, including public service announcements;

  • welfare programs should inform their clients of the cycle and its effects and provide optional screening and counseling for psychological wounds.

      Laws like these won't happen unless legislators (a) understand and accept the cycle and its effects, or (b) voters demand that federal and state governments enact them. Because of epidemic wounds + denial + unawareness, the latter us unlikely.

  Feedback please - how motivated are you to alert others to this cycle?

      For more detail on the cycle, see this article. Read this for ways to alert people to the effects of this cycle on them and their vulnerable descendants. Then begin studying online Lesson 1.

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