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This is one of a series of articles on evolving and
enjoying
families (Lesson 5). The series exists because the wide
range of current U.S. social problems suggests that
most families don't
fill the primary needs of (nurture) their members very well.
That suggests the epidemic effects of the lethal [wounds + unawareness]
proposed in this nonprofit site.
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LESSON 5 - evolve and enjoy a high-nurturance family
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Families exist to nurture
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i.e. to fill their members'
Depending
on many factors, fami-lies (like yours) range from low-nurturance to
high-nurturance. This lesson proposes how to significant-ly raise the nurturance-level of
your family and help break the [wounds + una-wareness]
This Lesson builds on the prior four. You'll get the most from this
lesson if you make significant progress on them. The lesson outlines (a)
knowledge for all families, and (b) extra knowledge for typical
and
Effective parenting merits its
own Lesson (6). Option - check off each assignment after you
complete it to track your progress. Take your time!
Objective - learn how families "function," so
you can (a) assess and (b) improve your family's nurturance
level, and (c) break the [wounds + unawareness] cycle.
Option - keep a
as you study these assignments to track you reactions and
aware-nesses. Your log can provide a source of helpful
awareness in the future.
Learn...
__ 1)
what
you already know about families (a
quiz); and...
__ 2)
answers to
questions adults should ask about families. Then...
__ 3)
Review _ the vital difference between
surface needs and primary
needs (Lesson 3), and
_ what all family members
need. And learn...
__ 4)
the
traits of typical high-nurturance
families. Were you raised in one?
__ 5)
Study the lethal [wounds + unawareness] cycle that your family may
have inherited - slides or
text
__ 6)
about family roles and rules - they promote
harmony or discord.
__ 7)
Review
- personal and family boundaries. And study...
__ 8)
Family-systems concepts, and how to benefit from them.
__ 9) How and why to make and use a
family mission or visions statement.
Do you know what you're trying to accomplish with
your family long-term?
__ 10)
Review why
and how to make healthy family policies on _
grieving and _
anger.
__ 11) How and why to hold effective
family
meetings - a potential source of satisfaction and pride
And learn about...
__ 12) The hazards
of maintaining family secrets - do
you have any?
__ 13)
Review
- the impact of toxic vs.
nurturing religion. (Lesson 1)
__ 14) surface and primary
and how to manage
major family-system changes like marriages, births, deaths,
graduations, retirements, moves, and divorces successfully.
__ 15)
Review
- options for improving communications with
adults and
kids (Lesson 2)
__ 16)
Co0nsider these options for improving family
relationships
__ 17)
Review this
menu of common relationship
problems and solutions (Lesson 4)
__ 18) Retake this
quiz about families to see what you've
learned here; and....
__ 19) Meditate
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decide if you want to use these ideas to
improve your family's nurturance-level.
Next:
If there are
children in your family, continue with
Lesson 6 - effective
parenting basics. If appropriate, then study Lesson 7
- evolve a high-nurturance stepfamily.
Recap
This is the study guide for Lesson 5 of 8 - evolve and enjoy
a high-nurturance family. It provides basic information
about family systems, structure, and dynamics that many
adults don't know. The lesson starts and ends with a quiz to
gauge how much you know about these vital family basics.
Ignorance of family basics is a significant part of the
lethal [wounds + unawareness] cycle that causes most personal
and social problems. This lesson is based on the ideas in
Lessons 1 thru 4, so take it only after you've made
significant progress on them.
The next two lessons build on this one - Lesson 6 proposes
keys to effective parenting. lesson 7 outlines a way to
evolve a high-nurturance stepfamily.
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Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this article?
Did you get what you needed? If not, what
you need? Who's
these questions - your
or
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