About Your Family's Structure
Premise - all family systems exist to fill their member's needs - i.e. to nurture. Each family's ability to nurture effectively over time ranges from low to high. One factor that affects a family's nurturance level is how stable and healthy its structure is in a constantly changing environment.
All families including yours, have an identifiable structure. It is com-posed of members + roles (who does what) + rules (how each member is "supposed to" act) + power-rankings (who makes and enforces the rules) + communication dynamics + alliances + subsystems. A family may have several structures, triggered by regular or special events like child visitations, divorces, deaths, illnesses, disabilities, geographic moves, financial changes, and environmental stressors.
The structures of typical divorcing, adoptive, faster, and step fami-lies are more complex than that of intact biofamilies, so diagramming them is specially useful at identifying p roblems.
Average adults (like you?) aren't aware of why or how to assess their family's structure and improve it. That usually means their kids aren't learning these skills either. This is like the crew of a jet airliner not learning how to assess whether their plane is airworthy.