When all Inner Kids, Guardians, and Manager subselves genuinely trust your true Self and Higher Power to lead them, "blending" (Self-disabling) does not occur - even in crises.

When this is true, people feel some mix of grounded, alert, calm, center-ed, awake, serene, focused, connec-ted, resilient, firm, decisive, "up,"  energized, aware, realistically-opti-mistic, confident, and/or "light."   

Many people are often controlled by a false self and don't know it. Lesson 1 here focuses on assessing for psychological wounds, and  freeing the Self (capital "S") to harmonize and lead the other personality subselves.