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to guide you in calm and conflictual times, and
Premise - any person or family can be judged to
be somewhere between "wholistically healthy" (fully functional) and "wholistically
unhealthy" (dysfunctional). Wholistic (usually spelled
means (mental + spiritual + emotional + physical).
"Functioning and growing at natural human potential." Judging this
Web site also ranks relationships and families as ranging between low-nurturance and
High nurturance means "consistently filling all
family members' current and long-term
primary needs well enough."
This article offers (a) brief perspective on
wholistic health, and (b) a checklist of
wholistic-health traits. Use the checklist to estimate
whether you or someone else is usually guided by your
true Self or not. Use these related Lesson-1
sharpen your estimate.
This article assumes you're familiar with...
See if you agree with these ides:
adults raising minor kids share responsibility for...
their and their
dependent kids' developmental and
family-adjustment needs well enough, and
other family member - specially minor kids - to assume responsibility for filling their own needs as an adult.
of any family or
other group is directly proportional to the wholistic health of
its leader/s - which depends on
how often their
guides their dynamic
guided by their true Self will have more traits of
wholistic health (below) than people often
controlled by a false self.
If this is true, then
adults working to reduce psychological
(Lesson 1) will significantly improve their home's and family's
wholistic health and nurturance level over time.
For sobering perspective, see these recent
research summaries about epidemic
Americans, and the toxic effects of
growing up in "risky" (low
An implication is that typical
Americans aren't very interested in personal or family
That implies typical Americans
are ruled by false selves.
See how many of these you can honestly check as "true" now. Listen to
what your subselves
say (your self-talk) as you mull these statements.
This checklist is
illustrative and random, not comprehensive or prioritized.
__ 1) I usually get
enough (strength / aerobic) physical exercise now.
__ 2) I sleep long enough and
soundly enough, most nights.
__ 3) I eat a diet
that's well-balanced in nutrition, frequency, and quantity.
__ 4) I weigh what
I should for my height and body type.
__ 5) I relax often
enough, without significant guilt or anxiety.
__ 6) I usually enjoy the
work I do and the people I work with.
__ 7) I'm consistently motivated
to get regular physical, eye, and dental checkups.
__ 8) I'm usually comfortable
with my balance between working, resting, and playing.
__ 9) I dont need to
rely on chemicals (including nicotine and excessive
fat, sugar, caffeine, and prescription drugs),
a compulsive activity,
to maintain my daily tranquility and
I feel clear on my current life
and I usually live according to them.
__ 11) I'm clear on the
difference between my surface needs and
and I can usually
between them to help
__ 12) I regularly choose to spend periods meditating, praying, journaling, worshiping, and/or
reflecting; without feeling significant guilty or anxiety about doing
__ 13) I often feel peaceful and serene,
(vs. numb) despite upsets, doubts, and conflicts.
__ 14) I _ know what my specific
personal gifts (talents) and limits
are, and _ I'm clear on what my lifes
is - or I'm
getting clearer on my main life-purpose, over time.
__ 15) I have one or more hobbies
that I enjoy regularly, alone or
Recall - these are common
traits of wholistic health and true-Self guidance.
__ 16) I
feel comfortable with my
recent balance of focusing time and energy on the
the present, and the future.
__ 17) I feel confidant I can
healthily and completely now,
learning how to that effectively now.
__ 18) I have an unwavering
in an accessible, nourishing (vs. shaming) Higher Power; and
regularly devote time to nurturing and being nurtured by that relationship.
__ 19) I have
several true friends
that I trust and enjoy spending time with.
__ 20) I belly-laugh
during an average week.
__ 21) I seldom feel significantly
panicked, or confused.
__ 22) I can usually
name what Im
and I frequently know why.
__ 23) I know when I need help, and
I can usually ask for it and accept it.
__ 24) I'm _ very clear on my
personal rights as a dignified, unique person, and
them effectively when I need to.
__ 25) I firmly feel that
and that my needs, feelings,
thoughts, and dreams are just as
legitimate as every other
__ 26) I _ know how to
clearly and confidently, and I _ have an effective way of
handling other peoples reactions (e.g. disagreement) to that;
I know how to do win-win
with other people, and steadily invite other
people to do
it with me.
__ 28) I can quote the
equivalent), and use it when appropriate.
I can clearly tell
Most mornings, I wake up refreshed and eager for the day.
__ 31) I do not depend on
medication (including food) for my sleep, digestion, or serenity.
__ 32) I'm comfortable enough
with intimacy, sensuality, and my sexuality; and I enjoy these gifts
without major guilt, anxiety, or obsession.
current life well enough: there is nothing major I wish to change now.
I _ took my time with this checklist, and
_ feel pleased, calm, and
satisfied enough as I finish it. _ There is nothing here that Id feel
uncomfortable sharing with important others. True / False
This brief perspective on personal wholistic health and the related
checklist provide a way of assessing whether someone has significant psychologically
wounds, or is usually guided by their true Self.
Lesson 1 here for an effective way to reduce such
Learn something about yourself with this 1-question