Does this group of (ideal) traits seem
realistic to you? Which would you change or omit? Add? How would you rank these in
importance? How would your parents react to these traits? Could
adults maintain a high family-nurturance level without
many of these personal qualities? Think of someone you see as an effective
parent. Do they have many of these traits?
Learn something about yourself with this anonymous 1-question
Few caregivers have most of these characteristics, or have individual traits consistently. Any parenting adult can
develop many of them with time and dedication. Do you agree? Would you also
agree that kids are most apt to develop these traits if their caregivers
model and teach them?
Parenting adults must learn
and perfect their role as they go - there's no way to practice with the
first child. They can't really judge their overall child-raising
success until their kids are grown and perhaps parents themselves, though there
are major clues along the way.
In this sense, first-born children are at some
disadvantage, through no fault of their parents.
This is one reason that having
effective grandparents and other veterans coaching (vs. directing) new parents along the
way can be an enormous help to all...
Premise: the more of these
traits that the adults in any home and family with minor children
have, the higher their
is apt to be. An equally important factor is how
adults are about (a) kids' developmental
and special needs and (b) how to help fill
them effectively toward healthy independence.
now. Do you focus on someone's parenting strengths or
shortcomings? Whose? Take some time to really reflect now... What are
is part of a series of articles on what minor kids need
to become healthy young adults
and how to parent (nurture) them effectively. This article proposes that one
requisite for effective parenting is a mix of personality traits. Some are
instinctual and inborn, and others can be learned.
This checklist of desirable parenting traits exists to help you
meditate, discuss, and form your own list. Then you can assess any adult for which of the
traits they have - or don't. This relates directly to whether their home and
family has a high or low nurturance
level. High levels have the best chance of
guarding children and society against inheriting the lethal [wounds +
studying Lesson 6 - effective parenting..
Pause, breathe, and recall why you read this article. Did you get what
you needed? If so, what do you need now? If not - what
you need? Is there anyone you want to
discuss these ideas with?
Who's answering these
questions - your wise resident
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