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"Crisis" means different things to different people. Here it means "some-one believes that without immediate action by somebody, some catastrophe will occur." The catastrophe may be the loss of one or more prized physical or invisible assets like life, a relationship, health, integrity, trust, respect, safety, freedom, etc. Do you face a crisis now? Typical divorcing families and stepfamilies are very complex, and experience concurrent problems more often than healthy intact biofamilies. Average co-parents need to patiently learn a lot about stepfamily realities, roles, implications, hazards, structures, merger tasks, and dynamics, before they can reduce current problems in and between their several homes. Option - choose a non-distracted time and place, and dig-down to discern (a) who's leading your personality subselves now, and (b) what your ruling subselves really need right now. Try saying out loud "I need ____ right now, or ____ will happen." If you still feel someone's physical, mental, or legal welfare is in immediate danger, (c) call 911, your doctor, the police, and/or your clergy, therapist, and/or lawyer, in appropriate order. Typical "crises" are symptoms of two core problems: unawareness + someone's personality is currently ruled by a chaotic and/or terrified false self. Note that thinking and/or speaking the word "crisis" can be emotionally provocative, and may be amplifying your stress. Option: reframe your situation as an "urgent problem" or similar, and see how you feel. Also note that Project 2 here is about discerning and resolving problems effectively, and Project 11 is about getting effective personal and family support. |
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