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Healthy kids and adults unconsciously form bonds (attachments) to special people, things, ideas, rituals, experiences, and places. Periodically, people choose to, or have to, break significant bonds. Grieving is the natural reflex to mentally, emotionally, and spiritually accept major broken bonds (losses), and what the losses mean, over time. If a "loser" lacks inner or outer permissions to grieve on any level, acceptance can be slowed or blocked. Until resolved, that promotes significant psychological and physical stress - which affects the griever and people around them. Every stepfamily follows an adult's death and/or one or more divorces. These always cause webs of major losses for all adults and kids involved. Typical steppeople come from low-nurturance childhoods, and bear related psychological wounds and unawareness. These often promote unseen blocked grief in re/marrying adults, ex mates, and prior kids - which ampli-fies other hazards to promote eventual re/divorce. Family Project 5 helps adults (a) learn healthy-grieving basics, (b) draft a healthy "Good grief" policy, (c) assess adults and kids for blocked grief, and (d) to free up any they find. This Project requires progress on healing adults' underlying wounds (Project 1). Projects 1-7 are best begun in courtship. |
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