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Healing false-self wounds and building high-nurturance step-family relationships usually require qualified professional help along the way. Typical unaware, wounded co-parents don't know how to identify clinicians who are competent to help in false-self wound- recovery and preventing or resolving common stepfamily stressors - and they don't know what they need to know. Begin to solve this by studying Project 1 and assessing your co-parents for false-self wounds. Then study these fundamentals. Third, use your expanded knowledge to interview counselors, attor-neys, clergy, and other professional helpers to judge if they're gui-ded by their true Self, and know enough of these stepfamily facts. Doing this protects against following uninformed advice, was-ting time and money, and eventual re/divorce. Shame-based adults may feel unqualified to evaluate human-service professionals like they do plumbers, beauticians, tutors, and mechanics. True Selves know better. See also these questions and answers, and this inter-esting NY Times article. Choosing competent stepfamily help is part of co-parent Project 11 in this nonprofit Web site. |
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