7 Key Personal Awarenesses

        Three essentials for effective thinking and communication in important situations are (a) your true Self (capital "S") leading your personality, (b) know-ledge of communication basics, and (c) clear awareness of at least seven of almost 50 relationship and communication variables:

• false-self or true Self dominance in you and your partner/s

• R(espect) messages: 1-up, 1-down, or "=/=" (mutual respect)

• Current communication and underlying primary needs (discomforts)

• E(motion)-level mixes - "above or below the ears"

• Our shared focuses: person/s, topic, time, and matching or not

• communication outcomes - effective or not?

• communication sequences and patterns

        Once aware of these and any other relevant variables, partners can choose which of the other six skills to use to help each other fill current respective primary needs. How often are you aware of these keys?  See the Project-2 guidebook and/or these:

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