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In all verbal and nonverbal communications, adults and kids semi-consciously "decode" up to five incoming messages at once: what you're thinking, feeling, doing, needing, and whether you respect me now. The last one can be called a R(espect) message, and is often the most impactful of the five - yet the least recognized. How do you react when someone seems to scorn, discount, ignore, or disrespect you? With your true Self in charge of your personality, use the learned skill of process awareness to monitor the R-messages you exchange with kids and adults in important situations. Then use assertion, empathic listening, metatalk, and win-win problem-solving skills to re/gain a sense of mutual respect. Otherwise, one or both of you will probably not be able to hear the other clearly, and you won't get your needs met. Project 2 in this nonprofit Web site is about learning to prac-tice effective-communication skills. more detail / slides / Project-2 index and guidebook / close |
Five Communication