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Every adult and child develops unique communication "styles," depending on their upbringing and which subselves govern their personality. Every style has unique personal and social impacts. Some common styles are timid, apologetic, empathic, assertive, aggressive, in/direct, humorous, intellectual, passionate, "open," vague, clear, provocative, respectful, self-centered, quiet, reserved, loud, truthful, dis/honest, un/focused, ir/relevant, pessimistic, ideal-istic, intellectual, and avoidant. Some people un/consciously switch their styles to fit different situations and partners, and others don't. Some communication styles are harmonious, and others conflict. Com-muncation styles are effective if they usually help all people involved get their current primary needs met well enough, including promoting or preserving each person's trust, and self and mutual respect. "Toxic" communication styles lower these traits in one or more people, which lowers the nurturance-level of their relationship/s. People who survive low-nurturance childhoods often have ineffective or toxic styles, aren't aware of that, or don't know how to improve it. Project 2 in this site focuses on learning to communicate effective-ly. Once people become aware of (a) communication basics and (b) their and other people's styles, they can use metatalk and problem-solving to shift theirs, and offer constructive feedback on others' styles. Do you know how other people would describe your communication style? Is it usually effective? |
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