Stepfamily-courtship Danger Signs

Millions of average U.S. stepfamily couples re/divorce or endure daily un-happiness. One reason is one or both needy, wounded partners didn't know their risks, and made up to three unwise commitment choices. Common RED LIGHTS:

Partners and/or ex mates having many of these false-self traits

Excessive urgency to cohabit and/or re/wed - dating less than 18-24 months

A bioparent saying "My child/ren will always come first with me"

Recent or chronic major ex-mate hostility and conflict

Assuming significant stepfamily-member dislikes or antagonisms will improve

Many recent major life changes

A history of unsuccessful or no intimate adult relationships

Prior romantic/sexual affairs

A partner ignoring major doubts or ambivalence about re/marriage

Any co-parent having major debts.

Partners ignoring co-parent Projects 1-7 or equivalent

Past or current ex-mate court battles and/or police involvements

Past or current adult or child addictions

Kids with major health, school, social, and/or parental problems

Co-parents keeping major secrets

Partners often avoiding conflicts and repressing emotions

Any co-parent denying their step- family identity and what it means

The more of these signs courting couples have and ignore, the higher their odds of psychological or legal re/divorce. See this and this for more detail.  

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