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A policy is a set of beliefs, values, rules, and priorities that governs person-al or group behaviors. Because all families need to grieve minor to major losses across the years, the family leaders' attitudes and practices about mourning form an unspoken "grief policy." If the adults are (a) wholistically healthy and (b) informed on healthy-grief basics, their grief policy will consis-tently promote healthy mourning in all their members and supporters. This creates a pro-grief home and family. If family leaders are significantly wounded and unaware of grieving ba-sics (the U.S. norm), they risk living from a policy that inhibits or blocks mourning in some or all members. They also risk modeling and teaching unhealthy grieving policies to their descendents. Incomplete grief seems to be a major (unseen) stressor in typical U.S. divorcing families and stepfamilies. It promotes personal problems like obe-sity, 'depression,' and addictions, hinders healthy bonding, and promotes premature death. Family Lesson 3 focuses on "good-grief" basics, freeing blocked grief, and helping adults evolve pro-grief homes and families. Does your family have a pro-grief policy? sample policy / Q&A / slides / Lesson-3 index / guidebook / close |
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