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Human problems and conflicts ultimately are unmet needs for emo-tional, physical, and spiritual comfort. All behavior, including communi-cating, aims to reduce current needs (discomforts) to tolerable - i.e. to "solve problems." Adults and children instinctively rely on awareness, knowledge, and communicating to maintain elusive comfort. Survivors of low-nurturance childhoods need to learn how to communicate effectively in adulthood. A symptom of our national need to do this is the unremarked U.S. divorce epidemic, which hurts well over half of our exploding population - more than AIDS. In this nonprofit, divorce-prevention site, family Project 2 provides adults with seven specific communication skills they can develop, use, and teach their kids. The seventh skill is win-win problem solving. It uses true-Self leadership + a mutual-respect attitude + the other six skills to (a) identify current primary needs in and between two or more subselves or people and (b) cooperatively brainstorm available solu- tions. Rather than problem-solve, typical unaware adults use ineffective strategies like these to try and meet their current needs. more detail / slides / example / practice / Project-2 index / close |
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