What is Recovery (Wound Reduction)?

        This nonprofit divorce-prevention site proposes that typical U.S. divorcing-family and stepfamily adults and ancestors inherited significant psychological wounds: a leaderless personality; exces-sive shame, guilts, fears, and/or reality distortions; and dis/trust disorders. Together, these can inhibit the ability to feel and/or bond with other living things - and therefore to hinder exchanging genu-ine love. This site further proposes that adults' combined wounds and unawareness (a) promote unwise courtship choices and di-vorce, usually (b) pass on to dependent children, and (c) degrade personal life-quality, health, and longevity.

        Here recovery and healing refer to honestly assessing your-self or another adult or child for significant wounds, and helping each other intentionally reduce them over time. Pseudo recovery is a protective false-self strategy to mimic recovery thoughts and be-haviors without risking scary (second-order) changes. Evidence: false-self symptoms don't shrink. Family Project 1 focuses on in-tentional personal wound-healing.

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