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From infancy, we each experience many human relationships by choice or chance. They range between nurturing to wounding, life-long to fleeting, spiritual to platonic to sexual, life-changing to forgettable, and so on. Our roles (responsi-bilities to others) differ from, and interact with, our relationships. Often, family relationships are among the most impactful, over time. Courting partners want their family members to "form good relationships" - i.e. to respect, accept, enjoy, and learn to care about (bond with) each other over time. Often, this doesn't happen, for many reasons. That lowers a family's nurturance level, and can stress members and marriages significantly. Mates who seek the keys to satisfying, long-term relationships will find four sets of interrelated factors: my traits and limitations + yours + shared factors + our environment. Reality: family members can intentionally affect some, not all, of these factors, which inherently limits relationship quality. The first place to forge nourishing relationships is among your personality's many subselves. Family Project 1 in this nonprofit site offers practical strategies and resources to do that. Long-term marital satisfactions depend partly on (a) how clearly each court-ing partner understands these factors, and (b) how well they assess the odds of evolving high-nurturance relationships among the kids and adults in their multi-generational families (Project 7). After committing, family up to 11 other Projects help adults to grow nourishing family relationships. more detail / quiz / Q&A / related links / formula / close |
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