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Typical Traits of [Wounded + Unaware] Couples
Premise - When typical committed partners are each (a) ruled often by
(wounded), and (b)
of themselves and key topics, they exhibit observable
personal and
mutual behaviors. The latter include several or all of these...
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each partner often
feeling unheard, disrespected, and misunderstood;
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trying to fill unmet
with ineffective strategies like
despite
recurring or increasing frustrations and dissatisfactions;
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denial of escalating
+
co-addiction/s
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unbalanced desires and
tolerances for emotional and physical
intimacy
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often preferring
time
with work and/or friends, vs. each other
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c/overt emotional
and/or sexual
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increasing
distrusts,
avoidances, impatience, and emotional volatility
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publicly ridiculing,
name-calling, and/or criticizing
the other partner
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accumulating
relationship hurts, resentments,
guilts, and
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frequently feeling
like opponents (you vs. me) rather than true partners ("us"), and rarely sharing 2-person
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avoiding couples
counseling, and/or getting little from it
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repeated cycles of
aggression and remorse
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choosing other
confidants, and denying or justifying this
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significant episodes
of indifference or "getting even" (punishment).
Every "troubled" couple will have
unique mixes and versions of these traits.
in this divorce-prevention
Web site is about spotting and cooperatively reducing traits like
these. The related guidebook is
The Remarriage Book
(Xlibris, 2002).
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