Break the inheitred [wounds + unawareness] cycle!
Seven self-study lessons to protect your family and descendents

Three Ways to Prevent
Family Stress and Divorce

p. 3 of 3

By Peter K. Gerlach, MSW
Member NSRC Experts Council

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3) Act on your vision, continued...

Satisfaction Options

        Are you clear enough yet on your personal rights as a rare, unique person of dignity and worth? Option: have your true Self encourage any reluctant subselves to " follow your bliss" the way that you are most comfortable with, not someone else. Expect stiff resistance from normal personality subselves like your People Pleaser, Shamed Child, Skeptic, Inner Critic, Anxious Child, and Guilty Child...

Review  these non-linked digests of the key ideas in this nonprofit site. Print and distribute them free to people you want to alert.

Create and submit an article, a poem, a novel, or an artwork about the topics on p. 2 and your vision; design and sell a line of T-shirts; start a greeting-card company, or contribute to one; 

Bring your topics up with your friends, and learn from their reactions. Enlist like-minded companions; 

Call someone who controls communication. policy, and/or education in your target group (e.g. an editor, clergyperson, teacher, or human-resource chairperson), and ask for an ap-pointment;

Learn who sponsors community education in your area and give a class - e.g. "Is your true Self running your life - or is someone else in charge?", and "What are your kids learning from you about 'good grief'?" Publish your class, and train others to give it. Put it on a CD  and submit it to educational clearing houses or sell it over the Web; 

Identify existing commercial or non-profit groups that work for your target population, and learn how they communicate with their audiences and how to join them;

Learn how laws are made in your state (or policies in your workplace), and manifest your vision by lobbying for a new law or policy - e.g. lobby for a law that all people applying for a marriage license have to pass a knowledge test, including topics like those above. (Notice your subselves' reaction). Option: require all marrying and/or divorcing couples to assess for false-self wounds, communication competence, and/or the ability to grieve well.

Learn the curriculums of the schools in your community, and work to upgrade them as needed to include any of the topics above that you feel passionate about;

Join a local speaker's group; and/or ask local civic, church, or professional groups to let you speak on one or more of these topics;

Ask your Higher Power and/or hire a consultant to help you manifest your vision;

Become a consultant for others helping your target group;

Take education courses for credit to strengthen your credentials and credibility, and expand your knowledge on your selected topic/s;

Submit a grant proposal to a funding source to help finance bringing your vision to life; 

Design a board and/or electronic game to teach and inspire your target group. Examples: the Ungame and Life Stories

Create a Web site, online discussion group, and/or publish a print or e-newsletter, pamphlet/s, articles, and/or a book;

Tell others about selected articles in this Break the Cycle! Web site, or the whole site , or these guidebooks, and/or these resources; and/or...

Tell human-service professionals in your target area about these stress-prevention sugges-tions and urge them to act.

        These illustrate a fraction of the ways you can earn major satisfaction by helping living and fu-ture families and other groups reduce their stress, raise their nurturance level, and lower their chance of illness, unchosen losses, and psychological and legal divorce.

        You really can make a difference, and enjoy a deeply-satisfying, celebratory conversation with your future self!

Recap

        This article introduces a series for lay people and human-service professionals on three ways to intentionally break the [wounds + unawareness] cycle and prevent personal and family stress and di-vorce. The three ways are...

  • Expand your awareness and knowledge on six or seven vital topics,

  • Apply your knowledge in your home and family, and then...

  • Help motivate other people to want to avoid or break the cycle in their families and organizations.

The article offers perspective and choices on each of these prevention steps, and links to more detail and resources. If you're ready, start learning here!

        If you're a human-service professional, see these ideas about using these steps to help prevent family stress and divorce with the people you serve and work with.  

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        Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this article? Did you get what you needed? If not, what do you need? Who's answering these questions - your true Self, or someone else?

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