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How You Can Help
Prevent
Family Stress and Divorce
p. 4 of 4 By
Peter K. Gerlach, MSW |
 The Web address
of this four-page article is http://sfhelp.org/prevent/intro.htm
Concluded...
Whether you and your family are significantly affected by the [wounds +
unawareness] cycle or not, what can you do to alert
other people to (a) the cycle, (b) its effects, and
(c) their
options to protect them-selves and their descendents from
them?
How You Can Help
You
can help to prevent
and reduce this [wounds + ignorance] scourge,
whatever your human-service role or background! Consider broad
possibilities like these...
Decide who usually
your personality - your Self (capital "S") or "someone else."
If it's not your Self (capital "S"), make reducing your false-self
wounds your second-highest life priority (behind protecting your
integrity and wholistic health).
Consider this: if you don't commit to preventing the
[wounds + ignorance] cycle and its effects - who will?
Read these brief
research summaries. They hilight the
widespread effects of low-nurturance parenting caused by inner
wounds and unawarenesses, tho the authors aren't aware of them.
Heal
and educate yourself, and help
your family do the same. The
more you experience the
benefits of wound-recovery and learning
the core topics, the more prevention-minded you're apt to become!
Read any of these
guidebooks that
fit your current personal and professional situation. If you see value
in them, tell relevant other people about them. Scan or study these
related books as additional
resources. No other authors explore false-self wounds or the core topics here - and the
books still have potential value.
Alert
your co-workers, administrators, and Board members to this [wounds + unawareness + ignorance] cycle and its main effects.
Options:
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informal discussion, and referral to these
slide presentations and/or
these prevention articles at
http://sfhelp.org/prevent/intro.htm;
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present an
in-service training seminar or series, and/or a conference seminar on
the cycle or one or more of its component topics;
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submit an article or series to your
organization's newsletter or bulletin,
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hand out
copies of selected articles from this nonprofit Web site (with suitable
attribution);
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make a
presentation or program proposal to your organizational leaders
and policy makers toward raising their awareness of how the
cycle and its causes and effects related to your professional
mission and programs;
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do an in/formal research survey to
validate one or moe of the premises here; and/or...
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clarify and act on your own vision.
If you belong to local and/or national
professional societies (e.g. AMA, NASW, APA, ABA, NEA, AFT, AAPC, ACPE,
AFCC, etc.) (a) alert the people responsible for professional standards,
training, and licensing to the wounds + unawareness cycle (e.g. these Web
articles), and
(b)
urge them to (a) validate these premises and (b) incorporate them in the
association's
policies and goals. Options:
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call a spokesperson, explain your goal (to alert you
to...), and ask who to contact. Then call that person and describe
your recommendation, and how it would benefit the society and its
members;
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send an
original or follow-up email or letter, referring to this
four-part prevention article and/or
your own material;
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write an article alone or with co-authors,
and submit it to the association's journal;
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give a conference presentation on
the [wounds + unawareness] cycle or a
and/or...
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your ideas.
Alert professionals and organizations that
you network with or refer to, using options like those above; and...
Ask
your co-workers to help to
alert the people you serve directly (personal contact) and indirectly, through
community and media education. Options:
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Target
groups
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your extended-family
members
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the people you serve
profes-sionally,
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your co-workers,
executives, and policy makers
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members and
policy-makers of any professional associations you belong to
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local or national
colleagues in other human-service profes-sions
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state or national
legislators
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institutions which
train, certify, and/or regulate human service
professionals
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some or all
12-step,
single-parent, teens, elderly, jail in-mates, or members of
special group/s, and/or...
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needy, unaware courting couples in
your area
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all children, teens,
or adults in your town, county, state,
country, or continent; and/or...
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a media population (e.g. news-paper,
Web, or TV
audience);
and/or...
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people who speak
your lan-guage (e.g. English)
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citizens of developing
and/or low-nurturance nations
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migrants, minorities,
and/or disabled people
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one or more of these topics
and their impacts:
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This table is suggestive, not definitive. Pause, breathe, and notice calmly
where your thoughts go now. Anything like...
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"Ah, too much work."
"They'll think I'm nuts."
"I'm too busy."
"I'm a terrible salesperson."
"I can't speak in public."
"I don't know how to present."
"I'm not getting paid to do this."
"People don't change." |
"People will ignore me."
"My boss (or __________) won't go for it."
"I can't make a difference."
"People don't read brochures or newsletters."
"Let's do this later, after..."
"Who am I (to try to make a difference.)"
"Nah, too risky; too many unknowns."
"Someone else
will probably do this." |
Thoughts like these are made by normal
like your
and/or
They probably don't trust
your
(capital "S"), who might say something like...
"I see value
in working to prevent and reduce major social problems. I
can do some of these
options over time along with my regular work. I think I'll do more research
on
and/or
one or more of the key topics.
Then I'll decide whether I want to try one or more of these options. I
think I'll kick this around with (a trusted, like-minded colleague) and
see what s/he thinks..."
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The theme of all the prevention options
above is educating people to the [wounds + unaware-ness]
cycle and how it impacts individuals,
families, organizations, and our society. If
you want to educate others, consider copying or building on any of the
materials in this nonprofit site to do so, rather than reinventing the wheel. Your
own unique way of expression will cause the best impact |
Recap
This four-page article for lay
and professional adults focuses on preventing epidemic family
stress and psychological and legal divorce. It proposes that
average families and other human groups are sig-nificantly stressed by
the combination of adults'...
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psychological wounds from a low-nurturance child-hood,
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unawareness of key internal dynamics, and...
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ignorance (lack of knowledge) of up to seven key topics.
The article invites readers to study these topics and apply them to
their own families to gain exper-iential knowledge, and and then
decide if, who, and how to alert a target group of people to this
pervasive [wounds + ignorance] cycle and its toxic effects.
"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of
cure."
+ + +
 While you're in the mood,
browse these inspirations from a range of
wise fellow-travelers - specially this unusual three-minute non-commercial
video "The
Dash."
Next - click your professional link below for more perspective and options.
Each profession has common and unique opportunities at all
levels.
Note:
these articles are under construction - check back to see them evolve
Reflect: why did you read this article? Did you get what you needed? If not
- what
you need now? Who's
these questions - your wise, resident
or "someone else"?
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October 17, 2008
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