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The article assumes
you're familiar with six or seven prevention
If you're not,
study these introductory
pages to get the most from reading this.
This article
is one of a series on how concerned lay people and human-service
professionals can help to
prevent common symptoms of
the toxic [wounds + unawareness]
like these...
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public
and legislative tolerance for unhealthy marital,
child-conception, and social-environment choices,
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unintended child
and
and related
psychological ("false self")
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significant marital and family
and
trauma,
and...
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public and professional ignorance of
This
article builds on the premise that once
like you are aware
of the causes and effects of the [wounds + unawareness] cycle, they
have a moral obligation to alert
other people to them, and work to prevent family stress and divorce.
The first two pages of this series propose three specific steps
human-service professionals can take to alert family members,
co-workers, clients or patients, and selected target groups of other people
on these causes, effects, and cycle-prevention options.
You
can use the information in this nonprofit Web site to...
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any
personal wounds and nourish your own family relationships;
-
improve the
effectiveness of your present professional work, and to...
-
empower other people to
prevent
personal and family stress and divorce.
This article and series
focuses on the last two goals. These Project-1
resources focus on the first goal. As you read in the introduction, you have a
wide range of options to tailor and accomplish these goals if you're
motivated to do so.
This article
offers perspective on (a) how the cycle may affect you and the people you
work with and for, and (b) summarizes cycle-prevention options in your profession.
You'll get the most from reading
this if you study this slide
presentation and read or review this four-page introduction
first.
Pause, breathe, and say out loud why you're reading this article.
What do
you
|
This resource is for people who want to help their own and others' families
avoid major
stress from the pervasive [wounds +
ignorance]
and grow a high
It provides a
way to check the knowledge you need to prevent stress in your family and
help others do the same. |
Rate your current knowledge of these topics by reflecting honestly and
answering each item T(rue), F(alse), or ? (I'm not
sure). Option: give copies of this article - or your version of it -
to other people, and encourage them to test their knowledge. Follow the
links to check or increase your awareness. The topics are:
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Understanding and avoiding (or assessing and reducing) six
"false-self" (psychological) wounds
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Overview - the [wounds + unawareness] cycle
and its effects
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Effective thinking, communication, and
problem-solving basics and skills
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Normal attachments (bonds), and healthy three-level
grieving of broken bonds (losses)
- Stepfamily basics, norms, hazards, and
protections (a separate article)
The [Wounds + Unawareness] Cycle
1)
I know how to tell if my true Self (capital "S") is guiding my
personality (T F ?)
2) I can _ describe the [wounds
+ ignorance]
to an average teenager now, and I can _ name the six or seven key
people need to learn and apply in order to avoid or reduce the effects
of the cycle in their families and lives. (T F ?)
3) I can _ name and describe each of
the
that stress typical troubled families, and I can _ outline generally
what family adults can
to avoid or reduce these hazards. (T F ?)
4) I can _ clearly explain
the three phases of a typical divorce,
and _ how to tell if a typical family has
adjusted well-enough to all
the losses and changes from physical, psychological, and legal separation and divorce. (T F
?)
5) I can name at least 10
developmental needs of typical minor
children, and _ at least 15 common family-adjustment needs kids of parental divorce and re/marriage
need informed adult help to fill. (T F ?)
False-self Personality Wounds
6) I agree that all human behavior
aims to (a) reduce local discomforts (fill current
and/or
to (b) increase current or future comforts and pleasures. (T F
?)
7) I
can clearly describe _ the
difference between surface needs and underlying
and
_ how that
to effective
problem-solving. (T
F ?)
8) I
_ understand and _ accept the
concepts of _
_ true Selves
(capital "S") and _ false selves;
and _ how early-childhood family
affect these. (T F ?)
9) I _
understand and _ accept the concepts of _ false-self wounds and _
(GWCs). (T F ?)
10)
I can _ name
wounds, and can describe _ at least 10 common behavioral symptoms of
each wound and _ how the wounds relate to each other. (T F
?)
11)
I can _ explain
at least four of the common personal and social
of these wounds
to an average teenager, and _ I can outline the process of
and at least five common recovery
benefits. (T F ?)
12) I
know _ how to estimate
when someone's true Self is
their personality, and _ I can name at least ten common behavioral
symptoms of false-self dominance. (T
F ?)
Personality Subselves and
False-self Wounds
Effective Thinking and
Communication
13) I can describe _ at least
three options for avoiding "fuzzy thinking," and _
for "effective communication."
(T F ?)
14) I can _ clearly describe the seven communication
anyone can learn, and _ how the skills relate to (a) each other, and
to (b)
false-self dominance (wounds). (T F ?)
15) I can clearly describe _ how to do
effective win-win
and _ I can name at least five common
to it. (T F ?)
16) I can _ name at least 10 common
blocks to effective communication, and
_ how to reduce typical
blocks. (T F ?)
Bonds, Losses, and Effective Grieving
17) I can now clearly describe...
-
what psycho-spiritual
and
(broken bonds)
are, and the several ways losses can occur
-
the _ three
of normal grief, and _ the
phases
of each level
-
_ how normal grief can be
blocked, at _ least
five
of blocked grief
-
at least three common psychological and physical
effects of (wounds and) blocked
grief
-
how false-self wounds usually promote
blocked grief
-
what an effective ("pro-grief") family
is, and...
-
generally what to do to
blocked grief and evolve a
family. (T F ?)
Did your
just make these assessments? If not, which of your other
personality
did?
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