About Values Conflicts
A common social stressor is opposing values - disputes about in-tangible preferences, priorities, and opinions - e.g. "I like rare beef and you're a vegetarian." Most values conflicts are based on tradition, exper-ience, faith, and personality, not "facts" or "reason." They are resolved differently than disputes over concrete "things."
People need to learn how to identify values conflicts when they occur, and to evolve viable strategies for resolving them. Because "rea-son" is usually of little help, the most effective strategy usually involves (1) maintaining mutual respect for each other's rights and dignity, (2) digging down to uncover and assert current primary needs, (3) working for a compromise ("If you need to smoke, please do it outside"), and where necessary, (4) agreeing to disagree without resentment, to pre-serve harmony.
This works far better than blaming, scorning, manipulating, punish-ing, ignoring, repressing, denying, fighting, threatening, and/or trying to persuade. Note that your personality's subselves can battle over values too! Lesson-2 communication skills are priceless assets in resolving any conflicts among subselves and/or people of all ages - specially when true Selves are guiding everyone's personalities. video / more detail