WORKSHEET 1) – FORM A BIOFAMILY (30")
Directions - Each person in your biofamily fill this worksheet out
1) Get in groups of three to five. Suggestions:
Real-life partners should be in different groups.
Pick people you know least well in this seminar.
Take your materials with you.
If you have a fifth person, add a relative or a third child to the biofamily you build.
Pick a spokesperson to introduce your “biofamily” (small group) to the large group, after the role-play.
2) Each person pick a role: design yourselves into a first-marriage biological family by picking first and last names, ages, occupations, dwelling features, some key roles, and some features of your standard Thanksgiving celebration. Record these on this worksheet (below).
For wider learning, pick a different role than your real-life family role - e.g. male <-> fe-male; Mom <-> Dad; adult -> child. Have fun with this, and be realistic about your family-de-sign choices - e.g. a family income under $75,000/year. Note: everyone in your "family" should have the same worksheet entries. You’ll use your worksheets in later parts of the role-play.
3) Define Your members: Pick first names and a common last name. Kids' ages should be between five and 13. "Other" can be a third child, a live-in relative, or an observer.
First and Last Names
Child 1 :
Your family religion, if any: _____________________ Members attend church? Y / N
Your gross family income: $ _____,000 / month.
Adults' ethnic heritage/s ____________________________________________________
Family pets, if any (kind/s & names) ____________________________________________
Your family location and dwelling: ( ) city ( ) suburb ( ) small town ( ) farm
_ house _ apartment or condo (which floor? ____) _ 2-flat _ other: _________________
# of floors: _____ # of bedrooms: _____ # of bathrooms _____ Is there a garage? _____
Fireplace/s? _____ Porch(es)? _____ Family (recreation) room? _____?
Air-conditioned? Y / N Yards: _ none _ small _ medium _ big
Responsibilities: in your household, who usually…
Takes out the garbage? ___________________________________________________
Does the laundry? ________________________________________________________
Pays the bills? ___________________________________________________________
Plans/cooks meals? ______________________________________________________
Buys the food: ___________________________________________________________
Makes child discipline rules? ________________________________________________
Enforces these rules? _____________________________________________________
Makes the major family decisions? ___________________________________________
Note anything special that currently affects your biofamily members – e.g. someone has a significant health problem, a financial problem, a pregnancy, a recent death, a new job, a graduation, an accident, an inheritance, a legal suit, … (Don’t overdo this…)
Favorite Family Events
Held where? ______________________________________________________________
Who comes? ______________________________________________________________
Normal arrival time: __________ Leave time: ____________
Who cooks? _______________________________________________________________
Main dishes / desserts: ______________________________________________________
Liquor/wine provided? Y / N; Church before or after eating? Y / N.
Other traditions - prayers / photos / music / games...
Stop here. If you finish designing your first-marriage family before the other groups, add some family history: key memories, crises, events, hopes, and/or traditions. Highlight them below. Notice how this “inventing” process feels, and what thoughts, memories, and questions it brings up in you.
Thoughts/ feelings/ awarenesses from designing our first-marriage “family”:
Updated October 06, 2011