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Stepfamily Basics
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7-01) A
profile of adults and kids before re/marriage
7-02)
Quiz:
do you know what you need to know about stepfamilies?
7-03)
Common
benefits
of living in a
typical stepfamily
7-04)
Stepfamily
basics
7-05)
A real-life example of a
typical new stepfamily
7-06)
Questions
stepfamily adults and
supporters should research
7-07)
Similarities between typical
stepfamilies and intact biofamilies
7-08) 30
structural differences between
stepfamilies and typical intact biofamilies
7-09)
30 unique developmental tasks new
stepfamily adults must master
7-10) Extra
developmental phases typical stepfamilies have compared to
intact biofamilies
7-11) Three possible
developmental paths new stepfamilies may follow
7-12) 60 common stepfamily
myths,
expectations, and realities
(8 pages)
7-13) Why
accepting your stepfamily identity
is vital
7-14) Perspective on
who belongs to your stepfamily
7-15) Why and how to use a
genogram to map your stepfamily
members
7-16)
16 things new stepfamily
members must merge
over many years
7-17)
Primary
problems
that cause most stepfamily
stress.
7-18)
A slide
presentation on how to build a
high-nurturance stepfamily
7-19) How to
evaluate stepfamily advice (2 pages)
7-20) How to
choose useful stepfamily books and
materials
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Stepfamily
Courtship and Re/marriage
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Note - the "/" notes it may be a stepparent's first union or
divorce
Review -
five
major causes of stepfamily stress
7-21)
Overview
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make three wise
courtship-commitment choices!
7-22)
16 courtship
danger signs
7-23) Perspective on
cohabiting ("moving in together")
Review:
Worksheet - Our
recent
priorities
Courtship Worksheets
7-24)
Am I committing to
the right partner?
7-25) Am I committing to the
right co-parents?
7-26) Am I committing to the
right
stepkids?
- (2 pages)
7-27)
Is this the
right
time to
re/marry? - a) partner factors
(2 pages)
7-28)
Is this the
right time to re/marry? - b) courting-couple
factors
7-29)
Is this the right
time to re/marry? - c) stepchild
factors
7-30) Are we re/marrying
for the right reasons?
7-31) Symptoms of
incomplete recovery from prior
divorce
7-32)
Keys
to a
healthy re/marriage
(2 pages)
7-33)
Ideas on
planning a successful stepfamily
wedding
7-34) Articles on
in a
stepfamily context;
Review -
primary-relationship basics
from lesson 4.
Review -
our
primary-relationship's
strengths
and growth areas (worksheet)
Review - Common
stressors that same-gender
couples will face (Lesson 4)
Resources - Computer-assisted pre-remarriage evaluation programs:
Prepare/Enrich,
REFOCCUS, and
Relate. These are useful, though
they're less detailed than the worksheets above, and they don't evaluate
some key factors like
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Effective
Stepfamily Coparenting
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Coparenting basics and typical
stepchild needs
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Stepparent-stepchild relationships
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Stepsibling relationships
7-35) Summary - typical kids' adjustment needs
after bioparents separate (divorce)
7-36)
Typical stepkids' concurrent developmental
and adjustment needs - (2 pages)
7-37)
How to assess a child's status with four
sets of special needs.
7-38)
Q & A
about divorcing-family and stepfamily
co-parenting - (4 pages)
7-39)
How stepparenting differs from bioparenting -
(2 pages)
Review - What is
effective parenting? (Lesson 6)
Review - Options for improving
communications with kids (Lesson 2)
Review -
Effective child discipline Lesson
6)
7-40)
Effective stepchild-discipline (3
pages)
7-41)
Overview: how to evolve an effective co-parenting
team
7-42)
Worksheet for clarifying co-parents'
responsibilities - (4 pages)
7-43)
How to make co-parent "job descriptions" - (2
pages, including a sample)
7-44)
Pros and cons of conceiving an "ours"
child in a stepfamily - (2 pages)
Review
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Avoid or resolve
legal
battles among family members (Lesson 4)
7-45)
Resolve the <real> problems causing typical
child-custody disputes - (3 pages)
7-46)
Resolve 3 problems causing child-visitation
disputes - (2 pages)
Review - The real issues causing family "money"
disputes
7-47)
Adapting to a "disinterested"
bioparent (ex mate) - (2 pages)
7-48)
Perspectives on legally adopting your
stepchild - (2 pages)
7-49)
Options for reducing adult-stepchild
problems
7-50)
Self-affirmations
for stressed co-parents
7-51)
Options if your mate hasn't grieved the death
of their former spouse - (2 pages)
7-52)
Rebalance stepfamily relationships if an
inactive bioparent becomes active. (2 pages)
Stepparent-Stepchild
Relationships
7-53)
Perspective
on typical stepkids
7-54)
Basics
- avoid or resolve stepparent-stepchild problems
7-55)
Q & A about stepchildren - (2 pages)
7-56)
Q & A about stepparenting -
(3 pages)
7-57)
Options for resolving stepparent-stepchild "love"
problems.
7-58)
Resolve stepparent-stepchild boundary
problems - (2 pages)
7-59)
Options for understanding and reducing stepkids'
dishonesty - (2 pages)
7-60)
Accept or reduce stepparent-stepchild
disinterest - (2 pages)
7-61)
Adapt to 1-way or mutual stepparent-stepchild
dislike - (2 pages)
7-62)
Options for improving stepparent-stepchild
respect - (2 pages)
7-63)
Build stepparent-stepchild trust
over time - (2 pages)
7-64)
Reduce major stepparent and stepchild guilts
to normal - (2 pages)
7-65)
Reduce significant stepparent-stepchild
hostility - (2 pages)
7-66)
Manage sexual tensions between a
stepparent and stepchild - (2 pages)
7-67)
Resolve conflicts over stepparent-stepchild
names and titles - (2 pages)
7-68)
Effective co-parenting with typical
stepteens - (3 pages)
7-69)
Create good-enough holidays
for your stepteens
Stepsibling
Relationships
7-70)
Basic perspective
on resolving stepsibling problems - (2 pages)
7-71)
Q&A about
stepsibling and half-sibling relationships - (2 pages)
7-72)
Help stepsiblings negotiate their
boundaries effectively - (2 pages)
7-73)
Help stepsiblings cope with
disinterest (rejection).
7-74) Use significant stepsibling
dislike to teach tolerance and respect.
7-75)
Reduce significant disrespect
between stepsiblings.
7-76)
Improve mutual trust between
stepsiblings.
7-77) What is
it like to be a half-sibling in a
stepfamily? - (2 pages)
7-78)
Options for
reducing significant step-sibling hostility.
7-79)
Reduce
significant jealousy and envy between stepsiblings. (2 pages)
7-80)
Manage significant
sexual attraction between stepsiblings - (2 pages)
7-81)
Resolve conflicts
over stepsibling names.
7-82)
Options for
defusing major stepsibling rivalries.
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Common
Problems with Stepfamily Relatives
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7-83)
Basics
- Options for improving relationships among stepfamily relatives.
7-84)
Key Q & A about stepfamily relatives'
roles and relationships - (3 pages)
7-85) Popup -
common stressors
among stepfamily relatives
7-86)
Resolve relatives' resistances to accepting
stepfamily identity - (2 pages)
7-87)
Confront disapproval and rejection
among stepfamily relatives - (2 pages)
7-88)
Confront significant disinterest
among stepfamily relatives - (2 pages)
7-89) Manage
"favoritism" conflicts among
step-relatives' - (2 pages)
7-90)
What do co-grandparents and step-grandkids
need? - (3 pages)
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Special
Stepfamily Issues
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7-91)
Options for reducing stepfamily holiday
and celebration stress - (3 pages)
7-92
Options for successful stepchild
residence-changes - (2 pages)
7-93)
Adapt to many family changes when a
co-parent's home relocates - (2 pages)
7-94) How to
pick an effective stepfamily counselor
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Resources
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Your
Stepfamily's
Strengths
(worksheets)
7-95)
Strength-inventory
introduction
7-96)
Our individual
co-parent's strengths
7-97)
Our co-parent
couples' strengths
7-98)
Our co-parents'
general caregiving strengths (2 pages)
7-99)
Our co-parents' stepchild-nurturing
strengths (2 pages)
7-100)
The strengths in and
between our co-parenting homes
7-101)
Our extended
stepfamily's general
strengths
7-102)
Our extended
stepfamily's stepfamily strengths, (2
pages including
"scoring."
Resources
7-103)
A
menu of articles
about solving common stepfamily role and relationship problems.
7-104) Helpful
books about
topics in Lessons 1 thru 7
7-105)
Options for
managing major family changes
7-106) Introduction - Use
structural
maps to understand and manage your
stepfamily
7-107) Helpful
Web sites, games,
books, and periodicals for co-parents and supporters
Review
- An overview of family
systems, and how to use
this concept
Review
- Why family
mission statements are
vital, and how to make one (Lesson 4)
Review:
Options for analyzing and
resolving
most
role and relationship problems (Lesson 4)
Review - An
introduction to
three universal family
conflicts, and what to do about them (Lesson 2)
Review
- What relationship
"triangles"
are, and why they're a problem
Review
- What
to do about relationship triangles
Review
- An introduction to resolving
values conflicts, impasses, and cutoffs
Review - Worksheet: How we handle values conflicts now
Review - Perspective
on family loyalty conflicts (a type
of vales conflict)
Review - Worksheet:
How we handle loyalty conflicts now
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index is
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