Courtship Decisions: Unwise Reasons Commit

        In recent decades, millions of U.S. mates have divorced psycho-logically or legally. One of three related reasons is needy, unaware, wounded men and women marrying an alluring partner for the wrong core reasons, and denying that. These unwise reasons can include needs to...

  • rescue someone

  • end loneliness

  • get co-parenting help

  • prove something

  • gain excitement

  • end the "dating game"

  • stop "living in sin"

  • relieve financial stress

  • get revenge and/or approval

  • feel socially "normal"

  • legitimize lust (reduce guilt)

  • help one or more kids

  • reduce fears and doubts

  • gain freedoms

         Lesson 7 in this nonprofit Web site offers courting partners a way assess whether they're making three wise commitment choices. For more detail on these choices, use these self-assessment worksheets. The unique guidebook for Lesson 7 is Stepfamily Courtship. Much of it applies all courting couples.                                                        worksheet