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This Web site exists to
alert family adults,
supporters,
human-service
and stu-dents
to the silent [wounds + unawareness]
that stresses most homes and families, and promotes the
tragic
U.S.
divorce epidemic.
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The site began as an information resource for people considering or belonging
to stepfamilies. It is being expanded to serve
all families,
psychologically-wounded people, and the health professionals that support
them. The content here is based on 45 years' technical, management, and
clinical research and experience.
The
site's main goals are to inform and motivate
you
to (a)
break the inherited [wounds + unawareness]
(b) prevent
family stress and divorce,
and (c) promote
family
relationships and
cycle, and
.
If you're new here, learn..
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how the site is
organized
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how
to best use it,
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the
basic
underlying it,
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who
created it, and the
six
guidebooks
which integrate
the information and resources in the site;
and learn...
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what you
need to know to
understand and use the hundreds of articles and worksheets here. Typical
adults (like you) aren't
of what they need to know - so
neither are their kids.
For perspective, see one couple's unsolicited
reaction to
this site.
Information for All
Adults and Professionals
To get the most
from this site, assess your
current knowledge of these core topics:
Compare
these premises about normal
personalities, healthy relationships, three-level
grieving,
solving relationship-problems,
and family nurturance-levels,
with your beliefs. Then...
Review these
introductions to...
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normal personality subselves -
slides or
text
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psychological
wounds and wound-healing - slides or
text
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the [wounds + unawareness]
cycle that may stress and injure you and
your descen-dents -
slides or
text
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effective
and
basics and skills
- slides or
text
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bonding, losses, healthy
three-level grieving, and
freeing blocked grief
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making three wise
courtship choices - slides or
text, and...
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divorce and divorce recovery -
slides or
text
Then Study...
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these
foundation articles that typical family adults and supporters
can benefit from; and...
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this glossary
of useful relationship and family terms, and...
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these
questions you ought to ask about...
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psychological
wounds and wound-recovery;
family
relationships
effective
communication and problem-solving,
bonding, losses, and
healthy grief,
solving family "money
problems," |
divorce and divorce recovery,
courtship dangers and
protections
stepfamilies,
relationships,
sex,
stepkids,
stepparenting,
ex mates, and
step-relatives;
support
groups; and
family
counseling,
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Scan
this index of brief research
summaries supporting key premises in this Website;
Study these guidelines for analyzing
and resolving most role and
relationship problems, and for improving your communication
effectiveness with adults and
kids.
Consider these ideas
on why and how to have effective family
meetings, and...
Meet a wise advisor
who knows you better than anyone - your
future self.
 If
you're not in a stepfamily and don't expect to be in one, go
here.
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Information about
Stepfamilies, Courtship, and
Re/marriage
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Do you know who comprises a
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Reflect on
these
benefits of living in a
stepfamily (!)
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Evaluate these five hazards
that promote stepfamily stress and re/divorce;
and this summary of
12 ways adults can protect everyone
against them
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Review
what you need to know
before deciding
whether to
re/marry, including
and six
key
Option:
study this slide presentation on how to
make three wise mate-commitment decisions
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Read
these suggestions for
co-creating a successful stepfamily wedding.
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Investigate why and how to make an effective stepfamily
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Review
these slide presentations on stepfamily
basics and effective stepparenting.
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Gain perspective from
these summaries of (a) stepfamily facts and
(b)
and
(c) this example of a real stepfamily.
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Overview basic information about
stepfamilies,
re/marriage, and
co-parenting;
and see a (partial)
of a typical multi-generational stepfamily.
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Gain perspective on the
typical adults and
kids who form American stepfamilies.
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Learn...
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Review a sample four-part stepfather "job
description," and use this inventory of typical co-parent responsibilities to help decide who
should do what for which child/ren in your stepfamily.
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Evaluate
and download a free 8-module
course for courting co-parents. It
aims to prevent widespread stepfamily stress and re/divorce by
illustrating
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Review this
link-index of all the worksheets, quizzes, and
checklists in this nonprofit divorce-prevention Web site.
Tally and celebrate your stepfamily's
strengths!
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Follow these links if you want to
learn about...
Solving
Stepfamily Problems
 Get a different perspective about
your family-members'
(inner
families) and how they interact.
Then study...
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this
comparison of common surface stepfamily-problems and the
primary problems that cause
them.
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ideas on
evaluating and strengthening your
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practical options for resolving scores of specific (step)family
relationship
or role problems, including
nine common
between co-parents (including ex mates).
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these Q&A items about ex mates, and
these
options for getting along better
with an ex mate.
Learn
about acquiring effective support
for you and your family, including how to organize an effective co-parent
support group.
Browse helpful
stepfamily
resources, like publications, Web
links, and games;
Learn how to (a) choose useful stepfamily
books
and effective counselors, and to (b)
evaluate stepfamily advice.
Meet other
co-parents
online or send me a comment or question.
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Help
prevent (re)divorce
in your community
or nation!
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site map or this
index,
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lot
here, so stop by often!
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Peter Gerlach, MSW;
Founder, nonprofit
project;
Member, NSRC Council of Stepfamily Experts
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