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  Reflect... why are you reading this - what do you need?      

  What You Need to Know

        Based on clinical research since 1979, this nonprofit divorce-prevention site aims to help people...

• evolve high-nurturance relationships and families and avoid (re)divorce, and...

• learn how to communicate and grieve effectively, and...

• make three wise courtship-commitment choices, and...

• protect their kids from inheriting unawareness + ignorance + widespread psychological wounds.

        Many average adults and couples can't achieve these goals. Evidence - America's divorce epidemic, and widespread addictions, mood and sleep disorders, "depression," obesity, suicide, homelessness,  personal litigation, overcrowded prisons, and the thriving welfare, counseling, and self-help industries.

        Premise: there are four core reasons for such stressors:

• unawareness of personal and relationship dynamics, and...

• denial of epidemic psychological wounds from low-nurturance childhoods, and...

• lay and professional ignorance - i.e. lack of accurate knowledge about...

  • effective (high-nurturance) parenting;

  • effective thinking, communication, and problem-solving;

  • healthy three-level grieving; and...

  • maintaining effective relationships.

  And millions of average adults also don't know how to....

  • evolve a high-nurturance stepfamily.

• our wounded, ignorant society promotes these stressors by (a) not making them core topics in public and professional education, and (b) legally condoning unwise marriages and child conceptions, and ineffective or toxic parenting.

Premise: the [wounds + ignorance] cycle silently passes down the generations and spreads in our society until parents or adult kids (a) become aware of it, and (b) intentionally commit to end it, by reducing their wounds and learning and applying the topics above.

        This non-profit divorce-prevention site offers tutorial slide-presentations on these key topics, linked to over 150 detailed Web articles, checklists, worksheets, and selected other resources. Tho this site emphasizes healthy stepfamilies, these core topics apply to anyone - like you.
 

Ignorance and psychological wounds are probably (a) degrading your life and relationships and (b) hurting your descendents in ways you're not aware of.

 

Raise Your Awareness 

        If you're looking for a quick fix to some personal crisis or problem, please read this.

        Try these self-assessment quizzes on personalities and relationships, effective communications, healthy grief, and if relevant, stepfamily basics. Then...
 

when you're undistracted, review each of these slide presentations, expecting to learn useful things. They each take about 30" before following links to more detail. If you have trouble viewing these slides, see this.   KEY - understanding and ending the silent [wounds + ignorance] cycle   Introduction to normal personality subselves, and your true Self and false self.   Overview of recovery from false-self wounds   Effective communication basics   Effective problem-solving basics   Healthy three-level grieving basics, and spotting and releasing blocked grief   How to make three wise courtship choices   About divorce and divorce-recovery           And if you are in a stepfamily - or may be - study...   Stepfamily basics,   12 effective protections against five stepfamily hazards, and...   Effective stepparenting.

Now What?
 

        Options - learn more about...

• Who controls your life now - your true Self or "someone else" (a false self)

• Your current life priorities

• Your family's nurturance level, and reducing psychological wounds (Project 1)

• Developing effective thinking and communication skills (Project 2)

• How to grieve well, free any blocked grief, and evolve a pro-grief family (Project 5)
   

• How to make wise primary-partner choices (Project 7)

• Co-creating a high-nurturance stepfamily via Projects 1-12

• How to help others stop the pervasive [wounds + unawareness] cycle,

• The contents of this nonprofit divorce-prevention site

• Key questions your family adults probably need to answer

        If your personality is controlled by a protective false self, you may be thinking...

"I know what I'm doing - I don't need any more information."

"This seems way too complicated. Forget it."

 "I'll follow these links later..."

"This stuff probably applies to (someone else), but not me or my family"

"I'm not a reader."

"I have more important things to do - I don't need any more projects."

        If your true Self (capital "S") guides your other personality subselves, s/he may cause thoughts like...

"These ideas sound important and relevant - I will make time to study these slide presentations now."

"I need to find out if my kids are at risk of the [wounds + ignorance] cycle, and if they are - what are my options?"

"I want to show these ideas to (who?) and discuss what they may mean to us and what we should do."

        Reflect - why did you visit this Web site - what do you need now?

If  you're not sure where to go in the site now, scan the directory for options...

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