About Communication-need Conflicts
Kids and adults communicate to reduce up to six concurrent needs (discomforts). Each person needs to feel respected enough and one or more other needs. These needs vary dynamically, and may match (OK or ?) or conflict (X). If they conflict, the odds for effective communication plummet. Mutual awareness of these needs can help partners fill them and the primary needs that cause them - if their true Selves guide their personalities.