Perspective on Family Secrets
A "family secret" exists when some adult or child unconsciously or intentionally avoids publicly disclosing something about a living or dead relative and/or a family event. Some people may view this withholding as "lying by omission."
Keeping secrets may be unconsciously following an unspoken tradition ("our adults never talk about their childhoods") or a spoken family rule ("What happens among us is nobody else's business.").
Withholding any truth about someone or something usually indicates the secret-keepers feel scared, guilty, and or ashamed of something that - if made public - would cause significant stress to some person or group.
If your family keeps major secrets, guard your descendents by using Lesson 1 to assess your adults for significant psychological wounds and reduce them.