R(espect) Attitudes and Messages

        All adults and kids need to feel respected enough by themselves and other people. So our ruling personality sub-selves constantly decode others' behaviors for implied signs of disrespect. We perceive (accurately or not) that another per-son's attitude about us is...

 "I'm 1-up (superior) - my needs matter most to me now."

 "I'm 1-down (inferior) - your needs matter most to me now."

 =  "I feel we're equals in dignity and worth now. I respect your needs and my needs equally now."

Communication works best when each person (a) is guided by their true Self (capital "S") and (b) receives genuine " =/= " R-messages from their partners. Are you aware of R-messages?

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