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Have you ever labeled someone a bitch or bastard? Has anyone labeled you as either of those? How would you define those terms to a pre-teen? Wounded people use disparaging labels like these to de-scribe someone who is often harsh, self-centered, insensitive, cruel, sadistic, disrespectful, and aggressive - i.e. "bad." A more compassionate (and realistic) view is to see such people as helplessly controlled by a well-meaning personality subself who can be called the Bitch or Bastard. Its ceaseless goal is to protect one or more naive inner children from more pain and harm. "More" suggests that the host person survived a lot of agonizing neglect and abuse in a low-nurturance childhood. Often they are burdened by excessive shame, guilt, and fears - and they don't know how to reduce them. Project 1 in this nonprofit Web site provides perspective on personality subselves, and practical options for (a) freeing the resident true Self (capital "S") to lead and harmonize them, and for (b) reducing false-self wounds. detail / slides / Project-1 guidebook & links / skeptical? / Q&A / close |
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