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People who experience agonizing physical and/or psychological abandonment - or the threat of it - during early childhood can develop a "Good (Dutiful, Responsible) Son / Daughter" personality subself. S/He ceaselessly tries to please parents and other key adults to be accepted and avoid re-abandonment (rejection). This powerful inner child can join an Abandoned Child and/or Lost (Orphan) Child and their Guardian subselves in controlling the host-person's personality. A common related Guardian subself is the People-pleaser, who ceaselessly seeks social approval and accep- tance to avoid the agonies of rejection, shame, and aloneness. Overactive combinations of these subselves can promote self-neglect (self abandonment) - i.e. ignoring or discounting current needs to please (be accepted by) other people. This can be a major cause of illness and codependence ("relationship addiction"). Project 1 in this nonprofit Web site provides perspective and op-tions for harmonizing personalities under the guidance of the resi-dent true Self and other talented "Regular" subselves. detail / slides / Project-1 guidebook & links / skeptical? / Q&A / close |
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