Stepfamily Reality 35 - Pleasing Everyone
From childhood and social training, some co-parents - specially women - may feel compulsively responsible for "making a happy home." Because divorce and complex stepfamily mergers inevitably cause significant hurts, frustrations, disappointments, losses, and conflicts for years, "keeping everyone happy" is an unrealistic expectation. Over time, it can promote significant guilt, lower self respect, increase daily anxiety and frustration, and stress a re/marriage - i.e. it can lower your family's nurturance level.