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Starting in infancy, every healthy person evolves a set of beliefs about what is right and wrong - in general, and in specific situations. At first, we copy our caregivers' and hero/ine's beliefs. As we mature, we may reexamine these and form our own sets of right/wrong beliefs to guide our behaviors and form judgments about other people's "character" and actions. Most kids and adults naturally develop a personality subself whose talent and job is to collect, maintain, and supply these right/wrong beliefs ("rules") to our other subselves in any situation. This Regular subself may be called the "Moralizer." It may become rigid, righteous, and "preachy" in some cases. If some subselves don't trust or follow the leadership of the resident true Self, they may mis-apply or distort the Moralizer's right/wrong rules, and cause significant guilt, shame, and/or other reactions. These subselves usually in-clude the Inner Critic, the rigid Controller, the Perfectionist, and the Guilty and Shamed inner children. Project 1 here offers an effective way to (a) reduce false-self wounds, (b) get the Moralizer / Preacher to replace harmful right/wrong rules with new beliefs like these, and to (c) moderate the way the Critic and Perfectionist subselves use the Moralizer's rules, in order to reduce excessive guilt, shame, and anxi-eties to normal healthy levels. more detail / slides / Project 1 index and guidebook / Q&A / close |
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