"Dig Down" to Identify Primary Needs
Most people cause and endure relationship stress by focusing on surface needs, and avoiding responsibility for filling their primary needs. This is specially likely for people whose personality is ruled by a false self. Inner focus and true-Self leadership allows "digging down" through four levels of awareness to identify primary needs and who they "belong" to:
I have no false-self
wounds and no problem (unmet needs) now.