"Dig Down" to Identify Primary Needs

Most people cause and endure relationship stress by focusing on surface needs, and avoiding responsibility for filling their primary needs. This is specially likely for people whose personality is ruled by a false self. Inner focus and true-Self leadership allows "digging down" through four levels of awareness to identify primary needs and who they "belong" to:

1)  Denials - I have no false-self wounds and no problem (unmet needs) now.

BlameI have no wounds - and I do have a (surface, secondary) problem which you must fix.

3)  Semi-aware - I have no psychological wounds, and I am half  responsible for my (surface) problem. You must fix the other half.

4) Aware - I am wounded and I am fully responsible for identifying and filling my primary needs.

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