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How would you describe the difference between a child and an adult to a space alien? Could you describe what maturity is? This site proposes that normal human personalities are composed of a group of semi-independent subselves. One of them evolves the special talent of making practical every-day plans and decisions, like making appointments, balancing debts and income, acquiring necessities, problem-solving, managing a home, attending personal hygiene, etc. In harmonious personalities, this Adult or Common-sense subself cooperates with other Regulars like the Achiever to "get things done," with the coaching of the true Self and Spiritual One. The Self (capital "S") has (a) wider vision and (b) more team-lead-ership skills than the Adult. Like all your subselves, the Adult is constantly expanding her or his skills by learning and integrating daily experiences. This subself usually has gender-specific values and traits which may match the body's gender ["Ramona is a feminine (or masculine) woman."] When the Self is disabled by distrustful Inner Children and their Guardian sub-selves (a false self), the Adult's practical wisdom and focus may also be overpow-ered. Such people can seem "childish" or "immature," despite having an adult body. Sometimes an over-zealous Adult subself and allied Guardians like the Perfectionist, Idealist / Optimist, Inner Critic, and Warrior/Amazon, can disable the Self. Symptoms of this are often overfocusing on short-term problems and details, and not regularly balancing work, play, rest, and personal growth. If a person is ruled by a false self and 'hits bottom,' Project-1 recovery can gradually (a) raise all subselves' trust in the Self's leadership, (b) reduce excessive personality-influence of Inner Kids and their Guardians, and (c) free the Adult to work with the other Regular subselves to make wise, practical decisions. more detail / slides / Project-1 index and guidebook / Q&A / exercise / close |
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