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Mythology describes Narcissus falling in love with his image in a pool. An egotist is someone who is "self-centered" and has an exaggerated view of her or his worth and talents. Some wounded people have an overactive Guardian subself which may be called the Egotist / Narcissist. S/He causes such people to be "full of themselves," have a "swelled head," and ignore or discount other people. This well-meaning personality subself may team up with a Selfish Child ("Fill my needs now!"), an Entitled One, Aggressive Child; a Competitor, who cease-lessly strives to "be better" than other people; and/or a Judge, who's specialty is criticizing other people. A clever Magician subself can provide convincing reasons this superior, self-centered attitude is justified. A typical Egotist / Narcissist subself strives tirelessly to protect one or more Shamed subselves from feeling that they're worthless, disgusting, inept, and un-lovable. The Anxious Child, Abandoned Child, and Catastrophizer, are sure if other people knew how worthless the person was, they'd scorn, reject and aban-don him or her - just as early caregivers did in real life. Alternatively, shame-based parents' subselves over-praised their young child, set few limits, and didn't encourage and model genuine humility and respect for other people. Effective recovery from false-self wounds (Lesson 1) evolves healthier ways to protect Inner Kids from excessive shame, guilt, and fears - partly by encouraging Guardians like the Egotist / Narcissist to trust the true Self, Higher Power, and healthy other people, and relax. As this happens, an "egotistical" person be-comes notably more empathic and aware of others, and more considerate and supportive in their relationships. detail / Q&A / Lesson-1 guide, links & guidebook / skeptical? / close |
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