WHO'S REALLY RUNNING YOUR LIFE?

 Free Your Self from Custody,
 and Guard Your Kids (4th edition)

By Peter Gerlach, MSW
Member NSRC Experts Council

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Updated  04-08-2015

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      This is the guidebook for Lesson 1 in this self-improvement Website. Based on three decades of clinical experience, it outlines how to assess for inherited psychological wounds and reduce them. Widespread social problems strongly suggest that well over half of average U.S. adults like you have significant inner wounds and unawareness - and they (you) don't know it or what it means. The fourth edition of this book is now available in hardback, softback, and ebook formats.

      This unique book provides a clear, practical answers to questions like these:

• What are "psychological wounds" and how do they happen?

• What are personality subselves, false selves, and my "inner family"?

• What do psychological wounds mean to me, my loved ones, and descendants?

• How can I assess whether I or another person has significant wounds?

• What does psychological wounding look like in a typical family?

• How can people heal these wounds, and typically what happens when they do?

• Where can I find more information on this?

The book is for anyone wanting to improve their life, health, and relationships; and to protect their vulnerable kids against inheriting the lethal [wounds + ignorance] cycle. The guidebook in NOT required to do lesson 1, (which offers the same information, tho more current).  

Table of Contents

Preface	9
Acknowledgements	13
Introduction	15
PART 1 - Your Inner Family
1) Our false-self legacy	29
2) Your many-sided personltiy	34
3) Meet your inner family	46
4) The effects of false-self dominance	72
PART 2 - Recovery
5) Overview: recovery from psychological wounds	95
6) Recovery: inner-family (parts) work	133
7) Basic parts-work techniques	172
8) Special parts-work techniques	198
9) Typical recovery phases, steps, and results	228
PART 3 - Wound-assessment Worksheets
A) 28 Traits of high-nurturance families	257
B) Behavioral traits of wounded people	267
C) Scan Your family tree for clues	274
D) Traits of high-nurturance group members	281
Worksheets E-J): premises and directions	285
E) Symptoms of false-self dominance	288
F) Symptoms of excessive shame and guilt	293
G) Symptoms of excessive fears	359
H) Symptoms of excessive dis/trust	299
I ) Symptoms of reality distortion	304
J) Symptoms of an Inability to bond or love	312
K) Symptoms of codependence	316
10) Using Your Assessment results	322
11) Summing up, and next steps ............................................	336
PART 4 - Resources
The Internet as a recovery resource	345
A Bill of Personal Rights	350
The 12 Steps for recoverers	356
Selected inspirations	361
Selected readings	369
Index	379

      Note: since this fourth edition was published, I've added some important topics to online lesson 1. If you buy this book, print these additions:

• parts-work strategies for common problems (4 Web pages)

• guidelines for working with your Inner Kids

• troubleshooting common parts-work problems

      I'd value any questions you have about the book or feedback on it, Lesson 1, and/or this non-profit educational Web site. I hope you find them clear, inspiring, and useful! Option - for more perspective, study the [wounds + unawareness] cycle that silently stresses many families like yours and is silently eroding our society.

- Peter Gerlach, MSW

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