Common Communication Blocks

     People communicate when they have unfilled primary needs (discomforts). Effective communication (1) fills each person's current needs well enough, and (2) everyone feels good enough about them-selves + each other person + the process between them. Most adults and all kids lack communication awareness, knowledge, and skills, and aren't aware of factors like these in important social situations:

  • signs of significant false-self wounds

  • too little or too much eye-contact

  • current communication needs, and whether they mesh

  • each person's ''awareness bubble''

  • current and chronic R(espect)-messages

  • using vague or " hand-grenade" words and phrases

  • each person's E(motion)-level  and awareness

  • focusing on surface symptoms, not primary needs

  • interrupting and/or assuming (mind reading)

  • arguing, fighting, or withdrawing, vs. problem-solving

  • being unaware of the current communication process

  • not requesting or giving empathic-listening checks

      self-improvement Lesson 2 provides communication basics and skills to avoid or resolve these common blocks. The skills work best when all people are guided by their true Self (Lesson 1). //   more detail