The Web address of this article is http://sfhelp.org/flyer.htm
I have been interested in people and relationships
as long as I can remember. This led me to become a professional
family-systems therapist in 1981. Since then, I have spent over 18,000 hours
working with over 1,000 average adults and some of their kids, trying to
assist them with a wide range of personal and family problems. I also have
learned much from the writings of well over 40 other experienced clinicians,
who share my interest in understanding and improving "the human condition."
Five decades of study, meditation, observation, and discussion have led me
to form the ideas offered in this non-profit Web site. I now believe that
most personal, family, and social problems are caused by a lethal [wounds +
that is silently spreading
and weakening our society. I have never found another person who proposes
this unverified idea. Most people whom I explain it to say "this makes
I want to alert people to this cycle
and motivate them to
- i.e. to protect future generations from inheriting it. My attempt to alert people has evolved into
seven-lesson online self-improvement
here. Before this course evolved, I tried to capture the essence of my
learnings in the books below.
are shelves of books on self-improvement, relationships, parenting, and
families. The books below are unique because they propose that most personal and social
caused by early-childhood abuse, neglect and/or abandonment (Lesson 1);
widespread personal and
societal unawareness of...
effective-communication basics and
skills (Lesson 2), and...
healthy grieving basics (Lesson 3);
effective relationship + parenting +
family basics (Lessons 4 thru 6); and for some...
stepfamily realities, problems, and
solutions. (Lesson 7)
glimpse how unaware you are,
and see what you learn.
will help readers understand these factors, what they mean,
and how to reduce them. The first two guidebooks are for
anyone - specially adults from
low-nurturance childhoods (
or GWCs). The other books pertain to typical stepfamilies. Most of their
content applies to all families.
five titles are available
from the publisher (Xlibris.com),
and other online book sellers.