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This free educational site is devoted to
breaking a toxic ancestral [wounds + unawareness]
cycle that stresses us all
(you) directly and/or indirectly. The site content is a free seven-lesson self-improvement course.
This article summarizes the content of each lesson, and provides links to
them. Each lesson includes articles, worksheets,
quizzes, resources, a link index, and a hyperlinked study guide. These lessons
build on each other, so study them in order.
This YouTube video clip overviews these seven lessons:
This unique course is based on my
years' research and experience as a family and trauma-recovery therapist,
blended with the wisdom of scores of wise teachers and clinicians. The
course integrates theories on
personalities + communication + grief + relationships + families + parenting.
In working with well over 1,000 average women and men in my
therapy practice and classes, I have never met one adult who
had integrated these topics into an effective lifestyle. Nor
have I seen any course like this one.
Most people (like you?) are unaware of what you'll find in this
practical course. That means that their (your) kids and grandkids are unaware too.To understand why this course and site exist,
please study these first...
How to Break the lethal [wounds + unawareness] Cycle
Lesson 1: Assess yourself for
psychological wounds, and reduce any you find by freeing your
true Self to guide you.
Learn to think, communicate, and problem-solve effectively.
Learn about bonding, losses, and healthy grieving, and grow pro-grief
Learn relationship basics, and optimize your
Lesson 5: Learn family basics, and evolve a high-nurturance
Learn effective-parenting basics, and raise Grown Nurtured
7: Apply Lessons 1-6 to evolve a high-nurturance stepfamily
and avoid probable psychological or legal re/divorce.
The final sections of this Web site are...
Optionsfor alerting other people to the [wounds + unawareness] cycle and how
to break it; and...
human-service professionals on how to use these ideas to help
clients reduce psychological wounds, live better lives, and increase the
nurturance-level of their families. (under construction).
The links below will take you to the
study guide for each lesson.
WOUND REDUCTION. A high majority of average women and men are unaware of
carrying up to six specific psychological
wounds from early-childhood
abandonment, neglect, and abuse (trauma). This Lesson shows you how assess for wounds and reduce them by
freeing your true Self to guide you. This
keystone Lesson has four
Learn about personality
subselves and Grown Wounded Children (GWCs);
Assess yourself for
up to six psychological wounds;
Evolve and work an effective plan
to free your true Self and reduce your wounds; and...
Learn how to spot and
relate to other wounded people
Effective communication is essential for all relationships, families,
and organizations - yet our ancestors and schools don't teach these basics
and seven skills.
Test this by taking this
quiz. This lesson has four modules:
Basic concepts - what you need to know.
Seven powerful skills. If you can't name
them, you're not profiting from them.
Useful communication tools and resources,
Key applications of these basics and skills.
Lesson-2 topics, see these YouTube
LESSON 3) "GOOD GRIEF" -
ignorance of healthy grief promotes incomplete grief. That
promotes significant psychological and physical problems like
"depression," addictions, obesity, and diabetes. These four modules
show you how to spot and finish incomplete grief, and grow a "pro-grief" family.
Basics - what you and
your kids need to know about bonds, losses, and healthy grief;
Assess yourself for incomplete grief.
Complete any unfinished grief, and form
Learn to support other grievers effectively
Lesson-3 topics, see these YouTube
A major part of the thriving counseling and therapy industry exists
because millions of people"can't get along with" (relate to) each other. The primary reason is
widespread psychological wounds and ignorance of Lessons 1 thru 4.
This Lesson provides effective-relationship basics and how to apply them to relationships
with your subselves (inner family); Higher Power; your family members, kids, and
has five sequential
relating to yourself,
how to solve relationship problems
primary relationships, divorce, and ex-mate relations; and...
Relating to a
Lesson-4 topics, see these YouTube
FAMILY - The wide range of personal and social problems suggests that
the current family norm is dysfunction. Use Lessons 1-4 to
understand the ingredients of a high-nurturance ("functional") family.
Then assess the
of your childhood and current families, and improve the current level as
needed. Lesson-5 modules:
Basic concepts you need to know about all
families (like yours)
Traits of a high-nurturance family
Identify and resolve typical "family
problems" using knowledge and skills from Lessons 1 thru 4
Lesson-5 topics, see these YouTube
LESSON 6)PARENTING - Unseen psychological wounds are epidemic because of
abandonment, abuse, and neglect. This Lesson outlines the developmental and special
needs of kids and teens, and how to fill those needs
Without major progress at Lessons
1-6, wounded parents risk unintentionally passing their injuries and
unawareness on to their kids.
Normal developmental needs of typical minor
Effective-parenting basics, including...
communicating effectively with children and teens,
guidelines for effective child discipline.
Lesson-6 topics, see these YouTube
LESSON 7) STEPFAMILIES
Sociologists estimate that typical U.S. stepfamily re/marriages fail more
often than first-marriage families. From
33 years' study
and counseling over 1,000 stepfamily adults, this Lesson provides stepfamily basics,
and applies Lessons 1 thru 6 toward growing a stable, high-nurturance
re/marriage and stepfamily. Sequential modules include...
Learn stepfamily basics and realities;
Essential courtship education - make three
informed choices to avoid probable re/divorce;
Stepkids' special needs, and effective coparenting (stepparenting and
Avoid or resolve common stepfamily role and relationship problems.
Lesson-7 topics, see these YouTube
The eighth section of this Web site (formerly "Lesson 8") is...
Use your awareness and knowledge from this
course to build a high-nurturance family and protect your descendents
from the [wounds + unawareness] cycle. As you do...
Alert other people to the cycle
and its effects, and their
options for breaking it.
How human-service professionals can use
these Lessons to help patients, clients, and students break the
last section of this Web site
is under construction (9/2012). It will be a free online course for
based on the 7 lessons above. Most professionals on all levels are partially
unaware of these topics, and many are psychologically wounded and don't know
course will propose how human-service professionals can use their training
and skills to help troubled persons, couples, and families reduce their
wounds, increase their awareness, function better, and protect their kids
from inheriting this lethal cycle.
This course requires professionals to reduce theirown wounds
and unawareness first!
page outlines the contents of a free, modular, seven-lesson self-improvement course. The
course is based on
33 years' professional research. It aims to help
people - specially parents - understand and break the lethal [wounds + unawareness]
that promotes all personal, family, and societal
This toxic cycle is silently spreading down the generations
crippling kids and societies
around the world.
I invite your feedback on any aspect of this course and site.
Thanks for visiting!