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  Updated  May 17, 2013 

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        This free educational site is devoted to breaking a toxic ancestral [wounds + unawareness] cycle that stresses us all (you) directly and/or indirectly. The site content is a free seven-lesson self-improvement course. This article summarizes the content of each lesson, and provides links to them. Each lesson includes articles, worksheets, quizzes, resources, a link index, and a hyperlinked study guide. These lessons build on each other, so study them in order.

        This YouTube video clip overviews these seven lessons:

        This unique course is based on my 33 years' research and experience as a family and trauma-recovery therapist, blended with the wisdom of scores of wise teachers and clinicians. The course integrates theories on personalities + communication + grief + relationships + families + parenting. In working with well over 1,000 average women and men in my therapy practice and classes, I have never met one adult who had integrated these topics into an effective lifestyle. Nor have I seen any course like this one.

Most people (like you?) are unaware of what you'll find in this practical course. That means that their (your) kids and grandkids are unaware too. To understand why this course and site exist, please study these first...

• the introduction to this nonprofit, ad-free Web site,

• these underlying premises; and ...

• this overview of the lethal [wounds + unawareness] cycle (or this video).

• If some terms are unclear, see this glossary.

How to Break the lethal [wounds + unawareness] Cycle

Course Outline

Lesson 1: Assess yourself for psychological wounds, and reduce any you find by freeing your true Self to guide you.

Lesson 2: Learn to think, communicate, and problem-solve effectively.

Lesson 3: Learn about bonding, losses, and healthy grieving, and grow pro-grief relationships.

Lesson 4: Learn relationship basics, and optimize your relationships.

Lesson 5: Learn family basics, and evolve a high-nurturance ("functional") family

Lesson 6: Learn effective-parenting basics, and raise Grown Nurtured Children (GNCs)

Lesson 7: Apply Lessons 1-6 to evolve a high-nurturance stepfamily and avoid probable psychological or legal re/divorce.

        The final sections of this Web site are...

Options for alerting other people to the [wounds + unawareness] cycle and how to break it; and...

Suggestions to human-service professionals on how to use these ideas to help clients reduce psychological wounds, live better lives, and increase the nurturance-level of their families. (under construction).

  Lesson Outlines

        The links below will take you to the study guide for each lesson. 

LESSON 1)  WOUND REDUCTION. A high majority of average women and men are unaware of carrying up to six specific psychological wounds from early-childhood abandonment, neglect, and abuse (trauma). This Lesson shows you how assess for wounds and reduce them by freeing your true Self to guide you. This keystone Lesson has four modules:

• Learn about personality subselves and Grown Wounded Children (GWCs);

• Assess yourself for up to six psychological wounds;

• Evolve and work an effective plan to free your true Self and reduce your wounds; and...

• Learn how to spot and relate to other wounded people

        To sample Lesson-1 topics, see these YouTube video clips.

LESSON 2)  COMMUNICATION - Effective communication is essential for all relationships, families, and organizations - yet our ancestors and schools don't teach these basics and seven skills. Test this by taking this quiz. This lesson has four modules:

• Basic concepts - what you need to know.

• Seven powerful skills. If you can't name them, you're not profiting from them.

• Useful communication tools and resources, and...

• Key applications of these basics and skills.

        To sample Lesson-2 topics, see these YouTube video clips.

LESSON 3) "GOOD GRIEF" - Unawareness and ignorance of healthy grief promotes incomplete grief. That promotes significant psychological and physical problems like "depression," addictions, obesity, and diabetes. These four modules  show you how to spot and finish incomplete grief, and grow a "pro-grief" family.

• Basics - what you and your kids need to know about bonds, losses, and healthy grief;

• Assess yourself for incomplete grief.

• Complete any unfinished grief, and form healthy new bonds.

• Learn to support other grievers effectively

        To sample Lesson-3 topics, see these YouTube video clips.

LESSON 4)  RELATIONSHIPS - A major part of the thriving counseling and therapy industry exists because millions of people "can't get along with" (relate to) each other. The primary reason is widespread psychological wounds and  ignorance of Lessons 1 thru 4. This Lesson provides effective-relationship basics and how to apply them to relationships with your subselves (inner family); Higher Power; your family members, kids, and other adults.

        The lesson has five sequential modules:

• relationship basics

• relating to yourself,

• how to solve relationship problems

• primary relationships, divorce, and ex-mate relations; and...

• Relating to a Higher Power.

        To sample Lesson-4 topics, see these YouTube video clips.

LESSON 5)  FAMILY - The wide range of personal and social problems suggests that the current family norm is dysfunction. Use Lessons 1-4 to understand the ingredients of a high-nurturance ("functional") family. Then assess the nurturance level of your childhood and current families, and improve the current level as needed. Lesson-5 modules:

• Basic concepts you need to know about all families (like yours)

• Traits of a high-nurturance family

• Identify and resolve typical "family problems" using knowledge and skills from Lessons 1 thru 4

        To sample Lesson-5 topics, see these YouTube video clips.

LESSON 6)  PARENTING - Unseen psychological wounds are epidemic because of widespread early-childhood abandonment, abuse, and neglect.  This Lesson outlines the developmental and special needs of kids and teens, and how to fill those needs (to nurture) effectively. Without major progress at Lessons 1-6, wounded parents risk unintentionally passing their injuries and unawareness on to their kids.

        Lesson-6 modules:

• Normal developmental needs of typical minor kids,

• Effective-parenting basics, including...

  • communicating effectively with children and teens, and...

  • guidelines for effective child discipline.

        To sample Lesson-6 topics, see these YouTube video clips.

  LESSON 7)  STEPFAMILIES - Sociologists estimate that typical U.S. stepfamily re/marriages fail more often than first-marriage families. From 33 years' study and counseling over 1,000 stepfamily adults, this Lesson provides stepfamily basics, and applies Lessons 1 thru 6 toward growing a stable, high-nurturance re/marriage and stepfamily. Sequential modules include...

• Learn stepfamily basics and realities;

• Essential courtship education - make three informed choices to avoid probable re/divorce;

• Stepkids' special needs, and effective coparenting (stepparenting and bioparenting); and...

• Avoid or resolve common stepfamily role and relationship problems.

        To sample Lesson-7 topics, see these YouTube video clips.

        The eighth section of this Web site (formerly "Lesson 8") is...

Apply this knowledge: alert other people to the lethal [wounds + unawareness] cycle and its effects, and encourage them to end it. Options:

• Use your awareness and knowledge from this course to build a high-nurturance family and protect your descendents from the [wounds + unawareness] cycle. As you do...

• Alert other people to the cycle and its effects, and their options for breaking it.

• How human-service professionals can use these Lessons to help patients, clients, and students  break the cycle  (under construction).

The last section of this Web site is under construction (9/2012). It will be a free online course for human-service professionals based on the 7 lessons above. Most professionals on all levels are partially unaware of these topics, and many are psychologically wounded and don't know it.

        This course will propose how human-service professionals can use their training and skills to help troubled persons, couples, and families reduce their wounds, increase their awareness, function better, and protect their kids from inheriting this lethal cycle. This course requires professionals to reduce their own wounds and unawareness first!

  Recap

        This page outlines the contents of a free, modular, seven-lesson self-improvement course. The course is based on 33 years' professional research. It aims to help people - specially parents - understand and break the lethal [wounds + unawareness] cycle that promotes all personal, family, and societal problems.       

  This toxic cycle is silently spreading down the generations
and crippling kids and societies around the world.

        I invite your feedback on any aspect of this course and site. Thanks for visiting!

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