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This site is devoted to
breaking a toxic ancestral [wounds + unawareness]
that stresses us all
directly or indirectly. The site content is organized as a
non-denominational, eight-lesson, self-study course. Each lesson includes articles, worksheets,
quizzes, and resources, and a hyperlinked study guide. These lessons
build on each other, so study them in order.
I am restructuring this entire
Web site, so
expect some errors and broken links until I can clean them up. Thanks for
your patience! - PKG, 6/09
This unique course is based on my 30 years' professional research
and experience, blended with the wisdom of
several dozen wise teachers
and clinicians. It integrates theories on personalities
+ communica-tion + grief + relationships + families + parenting.
In working with well over 1,000 average women and men in my
therapy practice and classes, I have never met one adult who
had integrated these topics into an ef-fective lifestyle. Nor
have I seen any course like this one.
Most people (like you?) are unaware of what you'll find in this
practical course. That means that their kids and grandkids are unaware too.
To understand why this course and site exist,
please study these first...
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the introduction to
this nonprofit Web site,
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these underlying premises;
and ...
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this overview of the lethal [wounds +
unawareness] cycle (slides or
text).
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If some terms are unclear, see this
glossary.
Course Overview - How to Break the lethal [wounds + Unawareness]
Cycle
Lesson 1:
Assess yourself for
psychological wounds, and reduce any you find.
Lesson 2:
Learn to think, communicate, and problem-solve effectively.
Lesson 3:
Learn about bonding, losses, and healthy grieving, and grow a
pro-grief family.
Lesson 4:
Learn relationship basics. Then choose and evolve nourishing
relationships.
Lesson 5:
Learn family basics, and evolve a high-nurturance family
Lesson 6:
Learn effective-parenting basics and raise Grown Nurtured
Children (GNCs)
Lesson
7: (if appropriate) Apply Lessons 1-6 to create a nourishing
re/marriage and high-nurturance stepfamily
Lesson 8:
Alert other people to the [wounds + unawareness] cycle and how
to break it.
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Option - print this and use it as a checklist to track your progress
with these self-study lessons. The links below will take you to the
study guide for each lesson. More detail:
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Course: How to Break the lethal [wounds + unawareness] Cycle
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LESSON 1)
WOUND REDUCTION - free your true Self to guide you, and reduce psychological wounds. This Lesson has four
self-study modules:
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Learn about personality
subselves and Grown Wounded Children (GWCs);
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Assess yourself for
psychological ("false self") wounds;
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Evolve an effective plan
to free your true Self and reduce your sounds; and...
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Learn how to spot and
react to other wounded people
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COMMUNICATION -
Learn and apply
effective-communication basics and skills,
This lesson has four modules:
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Basic concepts - what you need to know.
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Seven powerful skills. If you can't name
them, you're not benefiting from them.
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Useful communication tools and resources,
and...
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Key applications of these basics and skills.
__ LESSON 3)
"GOOD GRIEF" - spot incomplete grief, and grow a "pro-grief" family.
Modules:
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"Good grief" basics - what you and
all kids need to know to build pro-grief relationships..
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Assess yourself for incomplete grief.
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Complete any unfinished grief and form new
bonds.
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Learn to support other grievers
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LESSON
4)
RELATIONSHIPS -
learn effective-relationship basics and apply them to relationships
with your subselves (inner family); Higher Power; your family members, and
other adults and kids. The lesson is divided into four sequential
modules:
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Relationship basics
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How to solve relationship problems
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Relating to your Self and your Higher Power,
and...
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Primary relationships with a mate and your
Higher Power...
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FAMILY - use lessons 1-4 to
understand the ingredients of a high-nurturance family.
Then assess the
of your childhood and current families, and improve the current level as
needed. Mod-ules:
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Basic concepts you need to know about all
families (like yours)
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Traits of a high-nurturance family
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Identify and resolve typical "family
problems" using knowledge and skills from Lessons 1-4
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LESSON 6)
PARENTING - learn the developmental and special
needs of kids and teens, and how to fill those needs
(to nurture)
effectively. Then apply this knowledge to the young people in your
life and enjoy the results! Modules:
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Normal developmental needs of typical minor
kids
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Effective-parenting basics, including
communicating effectively with children and teens
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LESSON 7) STEPFAMILIES
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If appropriate, apply Lessons 1 thru 6 to evolve a high-nurturance
re/marriage and stepfamily. Modules:
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Learn stepfamily basics
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Essential courtship education
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Effective coparenting (stepparenting and
bioparenting)
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Avoid or resolve common role and relationship problems.
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LESSON 8)
ALERT OTHERS
to the lethal [wounds + unawareness] cycle, and encourage them to end it.
Modules:
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Grow and maintain your awareness of
key personal and social factors
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Use your awareness and knowledge from this
course to build a high-nurturance family and protect your descendents
from the [wounds + unawareness] cycle.
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Alert other people to the cycle, and their
options for breaking it.
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How human-service professionals can use
these Lessons with patients and clients
(under construction)
Recap
This
page outlines the contents of an eight-lesson online self-study course. The
course is based on 30 years' professional research. It aims to help students
(you) understand and break the lethal [wounds + unawareness]
that stresses most families (like yours?). These lessons are based on what
this non-profit site used to call "12 Projects," and are under construction
(6/09). The content remains the same.
During this migration process,
your
feedback is specially welcome.
Thanks for visiting the site!
Each lesson builds on the
prior ones, so start with
Lesson 1
Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this outline? Did you get
what you needed? If not, what
you need? Who's
these questions - your
or
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