Learn about personality
subselves and Grown Wounded Children (GWCs);
Assess yourself for
up to six psychological wounds;
Evolve and work an effective plan
to free your true Self from false-self dominance and reduce your wounds; and...
Learn how to spot and
relate to other wounded people
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION -
Effective communication and thinking is essential for all relationships, families,
and organizations - yet our ancestors and schools don't teach these basics
and seven skills.
Test your knowledge by taking this
quiz. This lesson has four parts:
Basic concepts - what you need to know
Seven powerful skills. If you can't name
and describe the skills, you're not using them.
Useful communication tools and resources,
Key relationship applications of these basics, skills,
Lesson-2 topics, see these YouTube
They're meant to augment, not replace, the lesson study guide.
LESSON 3) LEARN TO DO "GOOD GRIEF" -
We all have losses (broken bonds) throughout our lives. Unawareness and
ignorance of healthy mourning promotes
incomplete grief. That
promotes significant psychological and physical problems like
"depression," addictions, obesity, and diabetes. These four parts
show you how to spot and finish incomplete grief, and grow a "pro-grief" family.
Basics - what you and
your kids need to know about bonding, losses, and healthy grief;
Assess yourself or others for incomplete grief.
Complete any unfinished grief, and form
Learn to support other grievers effectively
Lesson-3 topics, see these YouTube
OPTIMIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS -
The thriving counseling and therapy industry exists
partly because millions of people
"can't get along with" (relate to) each other.
The primary reasons for this are
widespread psychological wounds + ignorance of Lessons 1 thru 4.
This Lesson provides effective-relationship basics and how to apply them to relationships
with your subselves (inner family); Higher Power; your family members, and
other adults and kids. To learn what you need to learn about relationships,
try this quiz.
4 has five sequential
relating to yourself,
how to solve relationship problems
primary relationships, divorce, and ex-mate relations; and...
relating effectively to a
videos augment Lesson 4 materials.
LESSON 5) IMPROVE YOUR FAMILY'S
FUNCTIONING - The wide range of personal and social
the current family norm is dysfunction.
Use Lessons 1-4 to
understand the ingredients of a high-nurturance ("functional") family.
Then assess the
of your childhood and current families, and improve the current level as
To learn what you need to learn about families, take t6his quizLesson-5 parts are:
Basic concepts you need to know about all
families (like yours)
Traits of a high-nurturance
Identify and resolve typical "family
problems" using knowledge and skills from Lessons 1 thru 4
Lesson-5 topics, see these brief YouTube
EFFECTIVE PARENTING - Unseen psychological wounds are epidemic because of
abandonment, abuse, and neglect (trauma). This Lesson outlines the developmental and special
needs of kids and teens, and how to fill those needs
(to nurture) effectively.
Without major progress at Lessons
1-6, psychologically-wounded adults
(GWCs) risk unintentionally passing their inherited injuries and
Normal developmental needs of typical minor
Effective-parenting basics, including...
traits of effective parents
communicating effectively with children and teens,
guidelines for effective child discipline.
Most of these ideas apply to
Lesson-6 topics, study these YouTube
LESSON 7) STEPFAMILIES
Because divorce is so prevalent, millions of
Sociologists estimate that typical U.S. stepfamily re/marriages fail
often than first-marriage families. From
36 years' study
and counseling over 1,000 stepfamily adults, this Lesson provides stepfamily basics,
and applies Lessons 1 thru 6 toward growing a stable, high-nurturance
re/marriage and stepfamily. Sequential parts include...
Learn stepfamily basics,
myths, and realities;
Essential courtship education - make three
informed choices to avoid probable re/divorce;
Stepkids' special needs, and effective
co-parenting (stepparenting and
Avoid or resolve common stepfamily role and relationship problems.
Lesson-7 topics, see these ad-free YouTube
Apply this knowledge: alert other people to the lethal [wounds + unawareness]
and encourage them to end it.
Use your awareness and knowledge from this
course to build a high-nurturance family and protect your descendents
from the [wounds + unawareness] cycle. As you do...
Alert other people to the cycle
and its effects, and their
options for breaking it.
last section of this Web site
is under construction. It will be a free online course for
based on the 7 lessons above. I believe that most professionals on all levels are partially
unaware of these topics. Many are psychologically wounded and don't know
it., which degrades the effectiveness of their work and their health.
self-improvement course will propose how human-service professionals can use their training
and skills to help troubled persons, couples, and families...
their true Self to guide them,
function better, and
protect their kids
from inheriting this lethal
+ + +
page outlines the contents of a seven-lesson online self-improvement course
for all adults. The
course is free, and is based on
36 years' professional research
into human development and behavior. It aims to help
people - specially parents - understand and
the lethal [wounds + unawareness]
that promotes all personal, relationship, family, and societal
This toxic cycle is silently spreading down the generations
crippling kids and societies
around the world. There are many options
for breaking it!
Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this outline? Did you get
what you needed? If not, what
you need? Who's
these questions - your