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Do you know someone who chronically avoids discomforts? When this behavior is extreme, it's usually caused by a dedicated Guardian person-ality subself who protects scared, guilty, and/or shamed Inner Kids by avoiding risky and painful experiences. This often happens after surviving major childhood neglect and abuse. This Avoider subself may team up with the Procrastinator, Numb-er, Moralizer, Cynic/Doubter, Saboteur, and Magician subselves to justify social isolation or superficiality (avoiding intimacy), shirking or not seek-ing appropriate responsibilities, taking few risks, and righteously justify-ing and/or denying shameful or guilty behaviors like avoiding, lying, pre-tenses - and denials An active Avoider or a coalition of Guardian subselves implies that one or more do not yet trust the resident true Self to keep the Inner Kids and host person safe. Project 1 in this nonprofit Web site offers effective ways to build such trust and harmonize your team of subselves. Project 2 des-cribes seven skills that can help you resolve the conflicts that promote toxic avoidances. detail / slides / Project-1 guidebook & links / skeptical? / Q&A / close |
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