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address of this article is http://sfhelp.org/site/intro.htm
Updated
May 12, 2013
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This ad-free, educational Web site is for people who take their lives
seriously - specially those caring for minor kids (or planning to). A
quick test to determine if you are such a person - have you identified
your
life-purpose
yet, or are you seriously seeking it? If "not yet," this
self-improvement course may be of little use to you now.
Either way, invest one minute in
the inspirational
video "The Dash" - it's about you and your life.
To see a summary of recent changes in this site, see this.
This brief YouTube clip previews what you'll read
in this site-introduction:
This educational Web site exists to alert youto a widespread toxic personal and family stressor - [psychological
wounds +
wounds that silently
passes down down our generations and is weakening our culture.
This inheritance promotes
social problems like abuse, neglect, divorce, crime, abortions, addictions, bigotry,
"mental illness," runaways, terrorism, gangs,
homelessness, obesity, depression, suicide, bankruptcy, and murder. Have any
of these affected your family?
Based on
33 years'
clinical experience and study, the site offers you a modular
7-Lesson self-improvement course (below) on how to understand and break the cycle and reduce major personal,
marital, and family problems.
Average
mature "well-educated" adults are
unaware of the cycle and its
toxic
effects. Are you aware of them?
What
Does "Break the Cycle" Mean?
The "cycle" is this: psychologically-wounded, unaware
parents raise wounded, unaware kids. They grow up, choose wounded,
unaware partners, and raise wounded, unaware kids - who repeat and spread the
cycle and its effects
in our society. For more detail, read this
after you finish here.
To break this
cycle, adults must commit to...
learning about and accepting the cycle,
starting with their own family tree;
assessing, admitting, and reducing their
psychological wounds;
learning the basics in this modular
course - alone or with
others;
patiently evolve a
high-nurturance
family together over many years, despite many obstacles, to raise
"Grown Nurtured Children" (GNCs) - i.e. kids who...
are
steadily guided by their
true Selves in all situations; and...
know how to communicate and grieve
effectively; and how to make healthy relationship, conception,
and parenting choices.
In my experience as a professional family-systems therapist since 1981
- most average American adults have inherited the cycle and it's effects
and are unconsciously passing them on. They (you?) are Grown Wounded
Children (GWCs) - and they don't (want to) know that or what it
means
I
strongly suspect that adults in most
or all other cultures inherit and pass on the cycle also. Responses to
my YouTube
videos from people around the world are steadily confirming this.
Notice your reaction to what you just read - curiosity? Cynicism?
Indifference? Confusion? Could the cycle be affecting you and your
family members? If so - who should stop that?
What's
in this Web Site?
Seven sequential self-improvement
Lessons for all adults and older teens:
1) Assess for psychological
wounds and reduce any you find (free your wise resident true Self to
guide you)
2) Learn effective
thinking and communicating skills
3) An overview of
bonding, losses
(broken bonds), and healthy three-level grief
4) How to optimize
your relationships
5) How to evolve a satisfying
high-nurturance family
6)
How to parent (nurture)
kids and teens effectively
7) How to evolve a
high-nurturance stepfamily
An eighth section of the
site will be an online course for human-service professionals (under
construction).
Each lesson begins and ends with a quiz on that topic to help you see
what you know and what you need to learn. There are NO ads in this
non-profit, non-denominational site
For more detail on these Lessons, see this course outline after
you finish here.
Three guidebooks are available in print and
e-book format, covering Lessons 1, 2, and most of Lesson 7. These Web
pages can be cited, printed, and distributed with appropriate credits if
you don't wish to profit from them.
This site also includes...
Over 170 brief YouTubevideo clips to preview and outline key articles and concepts.
Many of these videos are embedded in articles in the seven lessons. These videos augment, but don't
substitute for, the online lessons.
free 30" mp3 podcasts by the author
on key topics. See "Choice
Conversations" for other interesting podcasts on many
subjects These programs are also available on iTunes.com.
An
overview of the 7 Break-the-Cycle online lessons
(1/10/2013)
Makefreeing your true Self (Lesson 1) your highest
ongoing priority. That will maximize your return for
investing time and energy in this unique self-improvement course.
Keep a long-range
perspective (e.g. the rest of your life)
and the open mind of a
student. Many ideas here will differ from what you've
been taught.
Experiment with them, rather than pre-judging.
Do not expect these ideas and tools to resolve
any
crises
immediately - take your time!.
Avoid using these ideas as
absolutes. Sense the themes underlying them, and adapt them
to fit your unique personality, style, experience, and circumstances.
Keep these ageless
guidelines in mind as you grow
and heal.
To benefit from this
self-improvement course.....
complete
each study guide at your own pace. The 7 Lessons are
sequential and build on each other, so study them in order. Treat this learning as you would a sequence of
college courses. The more you learn, the more all topics will make integrated
sense to you. As you study...
apply
your learnings to any significant personal and family problems,
starting with freeing your true Self and
improving your communication
effectiveness.
Identify
any specific questions
you seek to answer here. Option:
keep a log or
journal of your questions, thoughts, awarenesses, and feelings, as you explore
this site and its guidebooks.
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Please use this
feedback
form to tell me your needs, reactions, and suggestions as you learn. If you
find the site useful, please let others know about the [wounds +
unawareness] cycle and sfhelp.org and related YouTube videos
(ref. the "gercacn" channel).
Recap
This introduction describes the purposes of this nonprofit ad-free Web site,
Seven self-improvement lessons designed to help you beak the lethal [wounds +
unawareness] cycle, and how to get the most from this online course.
Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this article? Did you get
what you needed? If not, what do you need? Who's
answering these questions - your
true Self, or
someone else?
Please
help me improve this site. Invest 30 seconds to tell me
who you are, and why you're here. No private info about
you is recorded, and no ads will pop up. Thank you!
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NEXT -
If you're ready to improve your life,
health, and relationships,
start studying
Lesson 1(free your
true Self) and Lesson 2(learn effective thinking and
communication skills).
To overview the content of all 7 sequential Lessons,
see this outline.
The Web
address of this article is http://sfhelp.org/site/intro.htm
What
Does "Break the Cycle" Mean?
NEXT -
If you're ready to improve your life,
health, and relationships,
start studying