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This article is one of a series on
professional counseling, coaching, and therapy with (a) low-nurturance
(dysfunctional) families and with (b) typical
and trauma. These articles for
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A core premise in this clinical model and* nonprofit Web site is that
personalities are dynamic systems of semi-independent, interactive subselves or "parts"
that conform to the principles of family-systems therapy. To survive
families, children automatically evolve three or four
including a talented
resident personality leader - the true Self.
Depending on many environmental and genetic factors, such
kids are often directed by inner children ("Vulnerable subselves") and their
Guardian subselves - a "false self." These reactive personality parts
distrust or ignore (disable) the true Self, and cause the growing child's
thoughts, emotions, and behaviors - specially in stressful situations.
Typical adults ruled by a well-meaning, short-sighted false self
or GWCs") develop up to five related psychological
"wounds" - excessive shame and guilts, excessive fears and/or reality
distortions, significant trust imbalances, and possibly an inability to bond
and exchange real love - Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).
Adults whose personality is guided by their Self (capital "S") or a "false
self" display characteristic behaviors.
This allows a knowledgeable person to assess for significant false-self
wounding, and the need for personal wound recovery (Lesson 1 here). Adults
and kids often ruled by false-selves usually promote and live in
low-nurturance homes, which causes mosaics of interactive surface
role and relationship problems.
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